What should i do with this girl?

Question

ive been going out with this girl for about a month. she has a boyfriend since may. but she told me she likes me and is always talking about us being together. now she is trying to decide if she should stay with her bf or leave him for me. but she is confused on who she should pick. she says were complete opposites of each other. help???

Answer 1

Uhhh, well it seems like she herself needs to get her own predicament straightened out... First and foremost, are you sure you want to delve into a relationship with someone who has deceived her own boyfriend? I know you guys like each other and all, but shes cheating someone - both of you guys actually.

What you need to find out is if she likes you so much why did she not break up with her boyfriend first, before she could pursue anything with you? Its just not right to deceive the other guy like that. What if you were him?

Shes not being fair to you or her boyfriend. Having to choose between the two of you when she shouldn't even have to be picking one over the other in the first place.

As for the "complete opposites of each other" comment ... thats not necessarily a bad thing. You know the saying "opposites attract"? Maybe its your differences between you two that has drawn her to cheat on her own boyfriend. She obviously isn't happy with him if she's with you too!

I just don't understand why people decide to date two people at once. First, she needs to make her decision and then you have to decide if she's really right for you. Consider who she is and what she means to you and then take into account the whole bf-deceiving ordeal.

Do whatever makes you happy, I guess.