What should ido if i was about to break up wth someone and he/she threatens to commit suicide...?

Question

because he/she wants you back...?

Answer 1

Say "do it then" 9/10 times they are idle threats just for attention.. don't give into such psychotic behavior or say then I should tell your parents so they can get you the help you need.

Trust me.. she aint gonna do it.  

Answer 2

Don't tell them to "just do it". Imagine the horror you'd have to live with everyday if they actually went through with it.

I think the best thing to do is to consider their feelings. They've obviously been really hurt. If you cared about them enough to be in a relationship, you should care enough to help them through this. If you don't want to be with them, then that's that, but please please take their feelings into consideration. There's no need to hurt them more than they already are hurting. Talk to them, it's probably all they want.

Answer 3

I think that would be termed an abusive relationship.....

better to get out sooner rather than later...I wouldn't budge an inch once emotional blackmail enters the scene......it'll only encourage more similar behaviour

Answer 4

Life is so important to everyone that nobody wants to die for somebody else...it happens some people threatens you but don't forget it just to get you back and even if you don't bother about it nothing will happen..so be cool and if you want to move on..go ahead and don't listen to threat...

Answer 5

You stay far away from them and not get dragged into it. They're trying to manipulate you using guilt to get what they want.

Not to sound callous, but their suicidal tendancies (if real) are not your problem, nor should you feel like you should make it that way. If they're an ex, then they should stay that way, and one who's crazy enough to use that bit is not worth entertaining.

If they really wanted to do it, and supposedly suffer so much without you, they'd have done it in tragic poetic fashion already. Threatening to kill themselves if you don't take them back sets off my BS meter.

If you are genuinely worried, let their friends and family know.

Answer 6

ask a professional,call the suicide hotline

Answer 7

Honestly?

No one should do that to you.

It would be so unfair.

Call a help line, get him/her some help, make sure they are ok but you can't stay because of that threat.

Maybe they are lying, maybe not. It isn't something that you deserve to take on.

Maybe go and talk to someone for yourself.

Good Luck :))

Answer 8

well if you break up with them who cares if they kill themselves. You can just say "I dumped them before they even went crazy"

Answer 9

You'd have to anylize whether or not it's just talk or if theyd actually do it. If you think they're for real with it ask them to go to therapy with you, if it's worse than that report them to a hospital etc or something for suicide watch.

Answer 10

Put simply encourage them to get help, if you think they are serious. I can understand that they are probably feeling life is not worth living without you and no amount of reason will get through that stubborn wanting. I expect it is nothing more than an adult tantrum though. Treat them with compassion and support. But under no circumstances allow yourself to buy into their fantasy. It's the fantasy of you they want and they are refusing to accept reality. If you just give some support and enough time for them to come to terms with their loss then they'll be out clubbing looking for the next mister right before you know it. It's not easy being the 'bad' guy. You just have to be strong.  

Answer 11

Tell someone close to her and try and get her to see a therapist. If her parents/best friend/therapist know about her depression and desperation, that's all you can do. You should still be there for her while she gets through it, but you can't stay with someone just because they're threatening to end their life. It's just not healthy. But you have an obligation to tell someone important in her life.

Answer 12

It's abusive and manipulative. It also shows a lack of understanding that, what is, is what is; just because they want things to be otherwise, isn't going to change the fact that one, and eventually both, of you aren't going to be happy.

Go ahead and break up, you are not responsible for their actions. Call the police or local mental health clinic and let them know that the person has threatened suicide.

Answer 13

call their best friend or parents or police or someone close to them, You know you don't want to be in their life anymore so to just pretend to be there for them or to be there for the wrong reasons would be even more detrimental to there psyche.  You don't want to get locked in a bad relationship and then perhaps have to do it later when the relationship is even more established.   Find someone to take care of the person because even if you are about to break up with someone doesn't mean that you want the person to die.  Make sure they are safe and then go on with your life.