What should my sister do ?

Question

well heres whats going on my older sister jenny got married a year ago to a guy named mike but mike had an 11 year old daughter who didnt take the marrieage very well and now a year later shes pregnant so mike and my sister told her and shes very upset not talking at all and my sister wants to know how to go about this what to tell her shes trying to be friends with kayla [mikes daughter ]but kayla keeps refusing she thinks my sister is trying to replace her mom who died when she was 8 what should my sister do

Answer 1

Simply put, your sister just needs to give the daughter some time. She not only has lost someone very important to her, but she is going from being an only child (after 11 years) to having a sibling that she will have to share her father with. She might be thinking that she might be losing her dad. Your husband needs to sit down with her and explain to her that even though there will be a new baby around, he will never lose all the love that he has for her. Give her time, she will come around.  

Answer 2

There's a word for her situation:

Normal

Dad needs to sit and talk with her, and enforce the respect that his wife is due.

Your sister can explain she's not the girl's mom, but she is her father's wife.  She's can be her friend, (that needs to develop with time), regardless, the daughter needs to respect her as an adult, and as her dad's wife.

Suspect they'll end up in counseling, because this isn't all that simple a thing to deal with.

Sorry

Luck

Answer 3

that's crazy

Answer 4

I think that the 11 year old needs to be reminded she is loved, and that they are not trying to replace her with a new baby, but that she is going to have a brother or sister, that will love her. She needs to know it is ok to miss her mother, and that your sister isn't there to replace her mom. I think it is important for her dad to giver her some one on one time. Your sister just needs to give her some space, and eventually she will come around. It takes time to heal when you lose a parent, and I imagine a lot more time for someone as young as this girl, who is probably scared and confused.

Answer 5

Tell your sister to stop trying to hard the little one will come round she may think that she will go once the new baby comes let her no that she will be a big part in the new baby's live let her no she is going to be the big sister let her choose and be apart of every little thing what may not be important to you but it may mean every thing to this little girl let her no buy different things that's she is Thai to stay  

Answer 6

Periods are your friend.

I can't honestly tell who is pregnant from the run-on paragraph, your sister or her step-daughter...

Answer 7

well i would just be really really nice to his daughter because she isn't use to a new mom