What should ones child call their step parent? their actual name or other?

Question

I mean what should they call their step grand parent

Answer 1

have them (the child - when he/she learns to speak) choose a name - it's more fun that way anyways

example: i kept trying to get my dd to say grandma. she finally said it and it came out mam-maw...then evolved to mee-maw... so now, her "title" is not Grandma, but Me-maw.

or, you could pick out alternative names yourselves:

hubby's father is pap-paw (to match up w/ mam-maw, lol)

hubby's g*ma is GiGi (b/c the initials for Great Grandma are G.G.)

hubby's other g*ma is Nana (pronounced Nah-nee...don't know why)

hubby's sister is LaLa (b/c that was her nickname before we were pregnant and it is easier for dd to say than "Heather")

my father is Pop-Pop, b/c that is what I called my g*pa

or, you could do something like take the first syllable of her name and just repeat it. for example, Judy would be Ju-Ju. (one of my friend's family does this)

hope this helps =D

Answer 2

if you're uncomfortable with it, don't do it.

try an exocultural title.  

for example, in the US, in some southern states, grandparents are called mammy-name or daddy-name.  (my grandfather from mississippi i grew up calling daddy-Jim) pappy or poppy is common, or ma-mere' for French-Americans.

or you could give them a nickname for the child to use.  my oldest son always called his maternal grandfather 'the grump.'

you could also discuss this with your stepparent, and let them know you're uncomfortable, and ask Them what they want to be called.

  

Answer 3

I call my step-mother by her first name.

Answer 4

it just really depends on you if you don't feel comfortable having the child call her grandma then she can be called by her name  

Answer 5

I don't think there is a cut in stone etiquette I would would offer suggestions such as maybe using just first name, or maybe grandpa/ma first name ie grandpa joe grandma jane etc..  however in the end I think it would be best to simply ask the step grandparents what they are comfortable with and also what the children are comfortable with.  Allot of it will depend on the age of the children and how close they are with the grandparents.

Answer 6

it depends on your preference or choice.  I encourage my daughter to refer to both her step-mom and her step-grandparents by their name or by their title--mom or grandma. She calls them what she feels most comfortable with.

Answer 7

my kids call my husbands dad and step-mom Grandpa paul and grandma Sue. I have always called them Paul and sue. My kids call my parents grandma and grandpa.

Answer 8

When my step-sons are speaking to me, or my parents, they refer to us by our first names. I don't mind to much, I'm not their mother, so I don't want to take that away from her. I don't think it's disrespectful because, like I said, I'm not their mother.

But when they're talking to their friends, they refer to me as their "parent" and my parents as their grand-parents. This isn't something i've asked them to do, they have done it of their own accord.

I don't think parents or step-parents should try to get their kids to call the step-parents "mum" or "dad". The kids should call them what they feel comfortable with, as long as it isn't offensive, it shouldn't really matter