What should we do...? (10 points for BEST answer)

Question

Okay, so my dad just told my sister, my mom, and I that they were going to shut our electric off in a couple of days. What I don't understand is that my dad CAN afford the bill. It's just you chooses not to pay the cost because it is so high. Another thing is that were sometimes broke because he is going out to the bar drinking every night. And beer these days are pretty darn expensive. I mean I understand this stuff it's not I'm like some 13 year old. I know what is going on and in a few years I will be moving out. My mom is just about ready to cry. My twin sister is threatening to commit suicide. My mom and I just keep telling her that everything is going to be alright. But my dad is just putting alot of stress on us, I mean he goes out drinking almost every night. He also has his own business, where he could be working up at this really wealthy place making big bucks. But instead he decides that he should work at this small bar so after he is done he can drinks. He fixes AC, hot tubs, and he is also a plumier. And he knows that at that wealthy place he can make alot of money, I mean once and a while he will go there. But it just makes me mad when he could be working there every single day. My mom is talking about a divorce and I don't want them to divorce. I know that I'm older, but it would still be weird with them split up. Do you have any advice at all for me?

Sorry, this was so long!

Answer 1

well its not your fault its your parents fault for having you and you sister sucked into all this. if he knows that him going out and drinking and spending all the money is whats causeing you and your sister and mom to be upset and that your mom wants a divorce that shoukd be enough to make him stop if he loves you all. but if he doesnt care the 3 of you should get yourselves away from him for a little while so you can clear thoughts

Answer 2

maybe you need to get the family together and talk about his problem and how it is concerning the whole family (do it one night that he is not drunk so he doesn't forget)

Answer 3

Its really not something you need to concern yourself with, your mom needs to give him the choice, drinking or your family. and if hes smart he'll give up drinking, maybe join some aa or something. But family should come first. and if hes not stepping up then your mom needs to.

Answer 4

hey im 14,we had to move away form our dad when he was drunk on the streets or  bar( that was 2years ago)

plz email me bcoz i cant write all this that i want to on this page for everyone

heres my email

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Answer 5

wow.....take a deep breath you have alot of stress so first come down it well be ok have you told your dad this?

Answer 6

It's not something you can do anything about. This is up to your mother to make the call. He needs to choose his alcohol or his family. I think she should divorce him, and make him pay child support so that you guys can get what you need instead of him getting drunk. Sometimes as sad as it is when families break up... it's for the better. I hope your mom figures out what she's going to do, and I hope your dad figures out what's most important to him.

Answer 7

Keep your head on straight and focus on your education.  Get good grades in high school and get yourself into the best college that you can afford.  Try to be there for your sister and encourage her to focus on her future and not your current homelife.  If she continues to threaten suicide, seek out a teacher or counselor from your school and tell them.  Do not worry about your parents, they are adults and should be able to handle their own problems.  A lot of us have come from stressful family lives and have gone on to great success.  

Answer 8

You need to talk to your mom. I was in a similar situation. My dad was abusing us. You need to have a family sit down and offer him help. If he doesn't want it there is nothing else you can do. "You can only lead a horse to water" :-) good luck!

P.S. About your sister- I was depressed too. Get her out. I just completely stopped seeing my Dad and then all of the sudden I wasn't depressed anymore. You have to understand its really scary. (Im 13 was depressed 12-13) Especially then when other stuff is going on. Its confusing and lonely. Find someone she REALLY REALY TRULEY trusts and love/adores and have her talk to them. DON'T FORCE HER TO DO ANYTHING EITHER!!

Make sure if you start getting depressed you tell someone. Its not a place you want to go. Don't question it either. You need to talk to someone!

Answer 9

Ok, I say just let nature take its course.  If your parents feel stressful tension, maybe it would be better if they divorced.  But I don't get what age has to do with this!  I am a very intelligent 13-year old, and if you don't know that 13-year olds are actually SMART, then I must be smarter than you.  At least that's the way you're acting in this.