What should we experience in our own lives as single people before falling truly in love ?

Question

I know that love is a major thing that changes everything about you... what should we do in our own lives before falling in true love.. Life experiences would be great

Answer 1

Be able to take care of yourself. Have a job, an apartment, and be able to handle things on your own. I'm so glad I lived on my own before I got married. I know I don't need a man to take care of me- I took care of myself for years!

Answer 2

The problem is none of us choose when we are going to fall in love, you may walk out of your door in the morning and WOW, and believe me there is no turning back. But in the mean time live life to the full and always remember, we reap what we sow. Good luck and I hope your life is full and happy.

Answer 3

BE yourself - first, foremost, ever and always. When you know who you are and can be that without feeling you need to change and be who he/she wants you to be, then you have all you need to be in relationship without losing the essence of yourself that makes YOU be YOU.

If you are there, then you will be in love with another person...really in love with them and not in love with your "dream" of them. You will not feel that you need to change them or they need to change you. Everything will be what it is (not what it might have been if only...) and you will be happy with everything as it is.

If you ever feel that you need to change or the other person needs to change, you are still a work in progress. Don't despair, most of us are.

The irony is this: LOVE does not CHANGE you. It just brings out the best in you - it was there all along.  

Answer 4

What I found and what I have advised my children is that you should be content within yourself and with your life before sharing it with someone else. In other words, you have have a job you like, you should be self-aware and able to exist alone. You should be able to be happy while alone.

That way when you invite someone to share your life you can meet on equal grounds and focus on your experiences and feelings without pressure.