What should we teach our kids to do when some other kids hit them?

Question

Sometimes some kids hit my child but as I always ask him not to beat anybody, he comes home crying.I get very upset but can't even teach him to hit the kid as he'll take it for granted

Answer 1

Your son sounds sensitive and non aggressive.  Which is great.  As of yet he hasnt hit back.

SO, on that note.  I would tell him to step up and hit him back.  Explain to him its never ok to hit first, but if someone hits you, you have to step up.  I wouldnt be concerned with him taking it for granted, it doesnt sound like hitting is in his nature.  He will have to learn eventually how to stick up for himself and handle bullies.  

Explain this to his teachers as well, let them know whats been going on and what you told your son.  Most likely they will support your decision.  They know its been going on, Im sure, and your son probably isnt the only one the kid is hitting.  As a former preschool teacher, I saw this scenerio.  When the child hit back (like his parents suggested), I reprimanded the child that hit first, and explained that when you hit - sometimes you get hit back.

Good luck!          

Answer 2

let em beat their ***... dont raise a queerr

Answer 3

whatever you do, DONT let him think that hitting others is OK.  i know someone that made that mistake while the little girl was like, 2.  now shes 12, and still hits people.  i rest my case.

just explain to him that he should use his words to tell the other kid that hitting isnt nice. if the problem keeps up at school, maybe tell him that after so-and-so hits him, if he doesnt stop, maybe its okay to tell the teacher or another adult.

Answer 4

well I tell my boys the same thing. But sometimes you have to just let them fend for there selves. My 5 year old kept coming home crying and i talked ti the teachers and he still was being picked on. So I told my son to hit the little boy back if he hits him again. The little boy never hit my son again. But my son knows that hitting is not nice unless you have to.

Answer 5

it depends on how old he is.

If you think he is old enough to take care of himself, then you should just leave him alone. There are challenges in life that require only him. I understand that it breaks your heart when he comes home crying, but he must get used to taking care of himself, and getting used to his parents not being around.

If he starts bleeding, or bruising severely, i suggest to let the child's parents know what the is doing. But that may lead to some complications. The child's parents may not believe what you are saying, they may think that it is not serious, or their kid can take it out on your child.

Letting the teachers know may be another option. However, if he is at the age where peer pressure take over, then other kids may taunt him for being "a tattle-tale".

If he learns to fight back, there may be some complications. Most of the time, victims of child abuse become abusers themselves. and i mean alot. as in 95%. Just help him to defend himself. Maybe he can be witty with his words, or play "pranks" on the bully. there is more than one door to a problem sometimes.