What should we write in our thank you cards?

Question

Just got married last Sat and got back from honeymoon last night, so starting on those thank you notes...what do I write? Is it appropiate to have them printed?

Answer 1

your thank you notes should be all handwritten. If you need help, buy "the bride's thank you guide' its about $10 at your local bookstore. It has advice on what to write for any situation and it sounds really personal and thankful. You have about 6 weeks from now to get them all sent out. Have your finace help you, take it slow and mail them in groups, that way you can get some of them out now and get them out of the way. Write ones to people that you are closest  to first so they get thier notes soon and it will give you some practice for writing to your new/distant relatives. Good luck and congrats on the wedding!

Answer 2

sometimes simple words say it best,

thankyou from the very bottom of my heart

Answer 3

No, don't print them.  Personal is better... just say something like "thank you for joining us on our special day, we were honored you could be there.  thank you for the Toaster, we love it!"   :)  

Answer 4

A hand written note means so much more. Just tell how much you appreciate the gift, and how you like it. Tell them how you will use it, and how did you know that I needed it. Just make it short and to the point. And, thank them in sweet words.

Answer 5

I wouldn't print them because its more personal and heartfelt and not generic that you print the same thing.

Write , thank you for sharing this very special night or day in our lives.

or something along those lines

Answer 6

Printed thank-you notes are fine, as long as you include a personable handwritten note. This can be brief, thank the guest for his/her specific gift, and "it was much appreciated".  Some of my gifts and their senders got mixed up, so I wrote ' thank you for the wedding gift......".

Hope this is helpful!

Answer 7

Having a Thank You card printed is not very personable.  I Would say something like.  Mr. & Mrs. ??????? would like to express our sincere appreciation of our wedding gift. or  Thanks so much for the wedding gift, we truly appreciated it.  Sincerely Mr. & Mrs. Thomas or ??????

Answer 8

it's ok to get them printed with thank you for sharuing in our special day. or thank you for your thoughtful gift. your kindness meant alot,we thank you from the bottom of our heart

Answer 9

Every etiquette book I've seen (and I wrote a few research papers on wedding etiquette...) says that the thank-yous must be hand written - sorry! To make mine legible, I drew light pencil lines before I started writing (I also did this on the envelope for the address / return address) and just erased them when I was finished - so it really made my handwriting look a lot better.

I was also concerned with what to say (and I have small handwriting!) so I got small thank-you cards so I would not have to write as much? This is pretty genius, in my book. I used 4-bar flat (not folded) cards (I got mine from www.paper-source.com & some had like a little letterpressed flower or something so that took up some space).

Anyway, here was my formula for physical (non cash) gifts -

+ thanks so much for the (thing) - we / I love it!

+ explain use ("We make cookies every Christmas, so having a nice hand mixer will be really appreciated..." OR "I cannot wait to host a little get-together JUST so I will get to use these pretty napkin rings..."). Try to be really excited no matter what the gift is and obviously never say you plan on returning / exchanging it or that you got two or anything...

+ thanks for coming to the bridal shower / wedding - it was really great to see you! we'll have to get together sometime / when we get back from the honeymoon / some thing that shows you like them / plan to see them soon.

+ Love, you (for shower gifts) or you & husband (for wedding gifts)

For cash gifts it's a little trickier, because you will probably get a ton of cash and who knows what you're going to spend it on -

+ thanks so much for the generous gift - we really appreciate it! It's going to go a long way to helping us put down a deposit on a house/ go on a nice honeymoon / etc. - you probably have a good idea of what you need money for and, for the most part, it's fine to tell them - like redoing the kitchen, getting a new car, totally fine! It's also OK to say that you plan on putting some into savings - as long as you acknowledge that you'll be doing some "fun" things with it too - weekend trip or whatever?

DO NOT - mention the amount of money they gave, tell them that you got a lot of money, say "thanks for the cash" or "thanks for the money" - it just sounds tacky.

Good Luck!