What should you do when someones decided to make you a scapegoat?

Question

What should you do when someones decided to make you a scapegoat?

Answer 1

if it is just a small favor you can let it pass but don't forget to ask for a treat.:p  But if someone uses you to escape from something that is serious, cut his b*lls because he doesn't deserve that. bwahahahha

Answer 2

There have been times when I've told a friend to go ahead and blame something on me. I do that out of love and concern for them.

I would be pretty offended if someone did it without my permission.

I would go to them first, and ask them why. I would then ask them to fess up and tell the truth about what really happened. If they did not, I would set the record straight. I would definitely go to them first and give them a chance to make it right.

Answer 3

Make like a cow and Mooooooove.

Answer 4

when they throw you under the bus get up, wipe off and keep on getting it...The people that do that lack self esteem and it makes them feel better...

Answer 5

  

   First of all I would talk to the person making me the scapegoat and give them the opportunity to set things right. If that person is then not agreeable I would tell everybody concerned and would tell them my side of the way things are and they would then have to make up their own mind who to believe. And I would then find out, who I could trust to be objective and see the matter as it really is. Without knowing what exactly occurred it is difficult to give advice. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

As there is always going to be a scapegoat when something goes wrong the best thing you can do is learn from your experience, and make sure you are not in the position to be the scapegoat next time, I know its not fair but life isn't fair so live with it.

Answer 7

You would have to allow it to happen...no one can make you anything

Answer 8

I call them out on it.  Own up to your part in whatever happened, but make sure that people know the other person was involved as well.  And be sure everyone knows all the details of the situation.  Everything looks better in context.

Answer 9

You could try the assertive approach and say I feel ...when you do... and in future I would like you to.... You never say you make me feel its always I feel. With the assertive approach you own your own feelings.

Alternatively if they seem upset or angry they may have problems and they may be taking it out on someone they feel will not fight back. You could turn it onto them and ask them why they are upset/angry.