What shud I do...an attractive woman is after me

Question

Hi..i am 23..quite average looking...i never was good at attracting d opposite s*x...growing up i had self esteem issues coz of being made fun of my appearance nd being called ugly by friends n family.....now 4 d first time in my life,I am being pursued by a stunningly attractive woman and shes really into me....it feels so strange coz i can't figure out why she would be attracted to a guy like me with no looks....i also feel that i don't deserve to date an attractive woman coz i am not attractive enough...this sounds strange of course...how do i could rid of this mental block which was ingrained into me during my teenage years....and yes,I am also very much interested in her but don't feel comfortable hanging out with her as i feel self conscious....plz help.

Answer 1

She probably sees you in her eyes as very attractive. We don't judge on outward appearance only as so many things about the person you are counts. I bet you have many things going for you. I would gather

you are what she is looking for in a boyfriend, such as kind, gentle,

a good listener, someone who is honest, modest, a hard worker,

and the list could go on and on.

Teenage years are hard and kids can be cruel but now that is behind you. We grow up and mature and see more in people than just a pretty or handsome face.

Answer 2

She probably sees the real you...  the one inside.  That's where the real beauty come from.  Your heart.  Let go of the past, and start looking towards the future.  Your past is past, it's gone, you went through it, and now you've got a nice girl looking at you.  Go with the flow and just be yourself.  She's probably down to earth and accepts you for who you are, and you can't get much better than that.

Answer 3

Your problem is one of perception, you think women only go for looks, I steer away from good looking men like the plague, I was engaged to a guy 5'2' (i am 5'6') because he was kind intelligent, the greatest help to my creativity by believing in me, calm and loving.  It happens ALL the time, because we are drawn to the people we are drawn to, its kismet/karma call it what you will, its meant to be.  There is obviously a spark between you two, so please leave the past where it is, it doesn't exist now, and all the current evidence is showing you that your clearly not being seen as an ugly guy any more.  Go grab her with open arms, and walk proudly down the street at what a wonderful women you have.  Oh and p.s don't kill the relationship by thinking she is going to leave you, that is insulting her intelligence and disrespecting her choice in you.  Good luck you deserve it.  

Answer 4

Wow! lol. My boyfriend is not a good looking man but Im attractive. Well maybe he llikes you and you are qualified for her to be your girl. You deserve her and I tell you you must be proud and with chin up when you walk with her. You know what my boyfriend is ver ugly but huh his heart OMG(Oh My God).  It's the heart that counts not  the looks.

Answer 5

You must have character qualities this woman likes or she wouldn't be so interested. Stop being so hard on yourself. If people are telling you that you are ugly, look at those people. Are they beautiful? If not, then don't let them influence your opinion of yourself. (I realize that easier said than done.) However, this woman seems to believe you are attractive. Enjoy it!!! Chances are that you actually are a nice looking guy, who has just been "abused" in reality.

Ask her out. Enjoy getting to know a new person. Take things slow. Don't push her. Have fun doing things together that you both enjoy and that you want to share with each other. Talk, listen to her, find out who she is. She might be the answer to prayer!

Answer 6

A lot of women are not interested in good looking men. That is not what is important.  You have nothing to feel self conscious about.  

Answer 7

take it from me most women don't care how you look they care about your personality, you need to stop worrying about it i know its hard i had rough teenage years also but you have to try your best to get over average looks don't equal ugly at all and you will be alot happier down the road don't look at yourself through the eyes of other people, all that matters is what you think about yourself, think positive about your self and you will be amazed how different people see you, it builds your self of steam and self confidence never be afraid to feel good about yourself good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!