What sort of traditions is it ok to do at our untraditional wedding?

Question

Well.... my fiance and I are Mexican, 21 yrs old, I will be 7mo. pregnant on our Wed day..... we're having the ceremony at our christian church and then a post BBQ at the park.

Some family members are already upset because we're not having a big dance reception, but we're more focused in saving for our future baby...plus it's our day.

For the church...

I'm not wearing a veil, I'm wearing off-white, I'm going to walk in with my fiance..... I'm not really into following traditions, since they originated from everywhere and have different meanings to different people....but I want to offend less people as possible.

I wanted to do the unity candle, but his parents wouldn't cooperate....

anyone has seen or done "unique" wedding ceremonial acts??? or have an idea of what we can do?

PleaSE No sARCasm oR JUdgemENTS......i receive enough

Thanks in advance

Answer 1

congrats to you and for saving for your baby.

My brother married someone from Guatemala and they did something with coins and also a lasso i think... although if you're not into traditions i wouldn't blame you for not doing the coin thing.... it kinda made it look like my brother was buying his wife lol  (it was in spanish so i don't know what they were saying sorry) I think its great my brother did it to respect his wife's family but you don't always have to respect every rule of every person because it can get outta hand pretty quick...

anyway, i don't see the problem with a unity candle either.

Weddings are hard you can't please everyone, but just stick to your idea of being responsible for your baby, nobody can tell you that that's a bad idea.

Congratulations.

Answer 2

Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I love what you have planned.  It all sounds nice to me!!  Why are you letting his parents decide about the unity candle?  If you want one....have one!  

If you want something similar, but different than the unity candle, why not do the "sand ceremony?"  This is where there are two different cylinders of sand.  You each take one and combine the sand in different layers into an empty cylinder placed in the middle of the two.  Look it up online.  This is getting to be the new thing where I live.  Sorry, but that is all I can think of!

Good luck and do whatever it is that YOU want for your ceremony....not what others want for you.

Answer 3

Parents do not participate in the unity candle that is for you and your groom to light .

Answer 4

Hey look, if no ones help pays for the wedding, then s***w em. It's your day so your way. and congratulations on your wedding and little bundle of joy

Answer 5

The lasso (handfasting) is a mexican tradition for what I understand. I think that it will be symbolic and meaningful.

Good luck and congrats

Answer 6

do what you want it's your wedding not your family's u only get married once (hopefully) so you u shud marry the way u want