What steps can I take to get a heathy self esteem ?

Question

I have a very low Self Esteem, what can I do to change that? What do you do to feel good about yourself?

Answer 1

Remind yourself everyday that:

-Someone does love you.

-You are perfectly and wonderfully made.

Answer 2

Stop caring about what other people think.

And to make me feel good I just think this:

Other peoples opinions are cheap.

They don't mean anything.

People will give you their opinions whether you want them or not.

This makes them cheap and plentiful.

It doesn't matter what other people think.

You are you, and that's is what makes you amazing. Just get some confidence and the world is your oyster!

Answer 3

It's all a question of attitude.  I used to have a very low self esteem in high school, but once I hit college, I just got really confident with myself.  I realised that looks and what others think of you dont mean anything.  What really matters is what you have INSIDE your heart.  Of course, it didn't happen over night, but I'm sure you'll manage.  :)

Good luck hun xoxox

Answer 4

do things that you do well in

or things in which you will learn how to do new things and be with different people

-volunteer work, art, exercise,

make an effort and things will change

tell yourself some of the things you do well instead of telling yourself all the time the things that you don't do well (which all people have)

read and search for your spiritual self

don't lie to yourself when you make choices

get in touch with how you feel about things

life will help you - that is what I think - if you make an effort and are patient

Answer 5

Spend time with positive people.  People who are upbeat and positive will wear off on you.  They will encourage you to not say bad things about yourself.  

Pay close attention to the destructive voice in your head that keeps feeding you bad messages.  If you hear that voice say negative things about you put a stop to it right away.  Remind yourself of all of your good qualities.

Try counseling.  You may need a little help to start down a new, healthier path.  I came from a highly abusive past and once I got away from it I finally began to gain self esteem.  Once you begin to see some progress and gain some confidence you will be so proud of yourself.  Good luck!!  The first step is the hardest.

Answer 6

You need to start doing things that make you feel good.

Maybe get into some sport, hobby or activity. Also stop focusing on yourself so much…you are your own worst critic. You need to recognize that your voice and opinion are just as valid as anyone else and that you are not weird or strange.

I am assuming you are young and if you are you will be happy to know it gets a lot better as you get older. At least it does for most of us.

Answer 7

Get involved with other people, for example clubs and groups

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Answer 8

I work on myself on all levels.

I go to therapy to work on my emotional stuff. I go to church to spend time with spirit. I walk to get physical exercise and to enjoy nature. I read to feed my mind. I spend time with friends and family who make me happy and feel good to be around. I volunteer and give to charity to give back to the world, and to realize that my problems are actually very tiny in comparison. I do things that make me proud of myself.

Answer 9

Start small. look at yourself and find a small part that you are happy with. Like it, love it. Let it grow. What do you need to feel better? Now be realistic, be your own best friend and give an honest answer - what is there not to be contented with that you cannot change? is it more or less than 50%. If more than 50% is in the good list you are on your way to a healthy self-esteem. If less than 50% you have got to practice being truthful to yourself.

Answer 10

eating healthy, exercising regularly, getting rest, accomplishing my goals and being nice to others, having great friends n stuff like that....at the end of the day it really doesn't matter how "cool" or "good-looking" you are cause everyone has different opinions, it's nice to want to be liked and take care of yourself, but don't stress so much about how other ppl see you, when you can never actually know anyways cause you can't read minds!

Answer 11

first of all it has to come from inside. every morning when you wake up you need to know that you are beautiful, smart, funny, and great. an all around a+ package. once you have your inside in order everything else will fall into place. if you have to use the bathroom during the middle of the day just to look in the mirror and say "I am some one great and i'm destined for greatness!"  but let me ask you a question what exactly don't you feel good about?

Answer 12

talk to your reflection... in the mirror