What the Frig should i do?????

Question

Ok im 8 weeks preg.... i have a 11 month old son.... im 20 and single.... this babys dad is an abusive idiot and wants nohing to do with me nor the child to come! i ahve just started to work again to support my son and i..... I decided yest that i want an abortion BUT i dont know if i can do it? i love kids and dont want to kill my own.... i couldnt live with adoption and i dont know if i can raise two on my own??? nor even afford it with rent taking 85% of my already low income!!! i love my son with everything i am and want to love this one to BUT i see it being unfair on this baby coming into a already struggling situation!!! WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??

P.S i am against abortion so for me to even consider it is a big deal... please know that im considering it for the right reasons..

Answer 1

I hear you. The first time I got pregnant I was newly married, I had just quit my PAYING job to become a Realtor and our income was really limited. We considered abortion for a short short time (and I am totally against it) what we came to realize was that we were just freaked out it wasn't in our plans, but we decided to keep the baby (which I later found out was twins that I ended up losing). Don't get an abortion, you can do this. You will have to make sacrifices and work really hard, but I know that some where in you there is the ability to raise these two kiddos. Good luck, I wish you all the best!

Answer 2

My nephew was adopted when my cousin couldn't care for him.  We get pictures sometimes, and know he's got a good family.  You could always have an open adoption.  At least with adoption, you know you've given the child a good chance, with abortion, there's none.

Single parents have a hard time, but the father does have to pay child support if you choose to keep this baby.  My mom had two of us, and worked, and went to night school.  It was tough for a few years, but the night school paid off, and she was able to get a great job.

Answer 3

Why are you so against adoption.   There are  many  people who would take this child and  it a really good life.  You will have make the decision really quick you are almost too far along for an abortion.  Why not try to go to a free counselling service and see if they can help you

Answer 4

check into open adoption. then you can pick the parents or parent and you can have some kind of relationship with the child

Answer 5

No abortion! You can do it be strong. Espicially if you have kids in the future you won't be able to stop thinking about the one kid that didn't get to be in your family.  

Answer 6

1. there is low income housing, I lived in very nice apts when I had my daughter and I only paid 3 dollars a month for my rent.

2. Food stamps

3.  WIC

4. get help with day care...

5 CHILD SUPPORT

DONT KILL YOUR CHILD. IT ALREADY HAS A HEART BEAT....

Answer 7

Dont get an abortion.

Try to get goverment assistance. Like food stamps, or day care assistance.