What the best way to avoid talking about how my father died?

Question

if someone asks me about my father i jsut say he died and IMMEDIATLY I get bombarded with questions like how which I say he just died ..........well how did it happen and it goes on and on . if I wanted to tell these people I would but I dont .(ussually strangers when trying to get to know one another or someone asking if my parents are excited about the baby I say yes my mom is but my father is not longer living. then the questions start how do Istop them from persistently asking. im sure they can tell I dont want ot tell them

Answer 1

Just say something like "I prefer not to talk about that.  I'm sure you understand."

If they persist, then something is wrong with them.

Answer 2

Just tell them you prefer not to discuss it.  In future, when people who don't know about your dad dying ask if your parents are excited, just say yes and don't invite the questioning by mentioning that your father has passed.  And, really, don't you think that wherever he is, that he is excited, too?  So you wouldn't be lying at all.  Congratulations on the baby!

Answer 3

Just be direct but respectful and polite. I think people are just naturally curious about these things. Just say, "It's something that I would rather not discuss please."  If they persist then say, I'm sorry but I don't want to discuss it. (You aren't really sorry. It's just something nice to say. It shows that you have concern for the person asking. It's polite.)  Repeat and if necessary, try to get away.

Answer 4

Tell them the truth. "That you just dont wish to talk about it at this time."  

Answer 5

Simply say, "My father is no longer with us and I'm still sad about it.  Let's talk about something else."  Keep repeating it until the person who's asking gets the message.

Answer 6

just say that i really don't want to talk about it right now thats what i did when someone in my family died.

Answer 7

I don't see anything wrong with you just saying something like, "I'd rather not talk about it."  If you're polite and firm about it, they should understand and back off.  Or you can have a list of things in mind to use to change the subject.

Answer 8

They can't prove you had anything to do with it....that is up to a court to decide...

Answer 9

You seem to be inferring that the manner of his death was "unsual."  Most people don't have a problem with saying, for example, "He had a heart attack."  I can identify with your situation.  You can tell the truth and not be ashamed of it (that's what I do), or you can tell a little white lie and say, "an anorism."  Then add quickly, "I'm sorry, but I really don't like to talk about it." Smile and change the subject.

Answer 10

Just tell them that subject is too painful to talk about.  If they persist and ask another question just stare at them silently.  There is no need to give details.

Answer 11

If you just don't want to talk about your father's death say, "It's too hard for me to talk about.".  If you're ashamed of the way he died and don't want to talk about it because of that the just make something up...just say, "It was cancer.  I can't talk about it because it causes me too much pain."