What the heck is going on with my boyfriend and i ?????

Question

So we are TTC and lately ive been very very very mean to him and he's been very mean to me i dont know why we have been acting like this maybe cuz we are both a little stressed out he works all the time and we just got a new home and im looking for a job and on top of all that we are trying for a baby we recently (3 months ago) had a miscarriage at 5 months pregnant due to an incomplete cervix but im just wondering if any other women have gone through this arguing all the time kind of thing???

and we also dont know if im pregnant right now so do u think that has anything to do with it?

Answer 1

I'm sorry you had a miscarriage--what a terrible loss. I hope you are doing okay.

It sounds like you and your BF have a lot going on. I have been through the fighting and sniping part of it. One thing that worked for me was to ACT loving even if I didn't FEEL loving. Hold his hand, rub his shoulder, smile at him...even if you don't feel like it. Chances are good that the feelings will come from the actions. And you two probably need a little time to mourn your loss and breathe easy again. Maybe take a month or two off from actively trying to get pregnant? Get adjusted to your new home, find a job, let his job ease up (hopefully!). You two sound very overloaded right now.

Try to have a peaceful weekend and see how it goes to act loving. I sometimes literally bite my tongue when I feel the Mean Girl coming on. I look stupid, but it works.

Take care of yourself, and all best.

Answer 2

well the stress i can understand we are going throw the same here and the being mean part well all of us go throw it but idk if ur prego or not take a hpt

Answer 3

you both need to remember that the miscarriage, and the difficulty trying to conceive is not the fault of either of you.

It sounds like you are both getting stressed, and instead of talking about it, you are snapping at each other, which causes you both to get defensive and aggressive.

Communication is essential, especially through difficult times.

Good luck with TTC!

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about your loss!! I just think that the both of you all, have a lot of things on your plate and it's a lot to handle. 1st find out if you are pregnant, so that they can prevent any other miscarriages. I believe that, they put a stitch to hold your cervix. Just make-up, there's no need to argue over the small things, there's to many big things to argue over. take care and good luck..