What the h**l am i gonna do ? please give me ur advice?

Question

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ok so i have been dating my bf for 11 months and we live together, he has 2 kids from different girls. it doesnt bother me he told me from day 1 so i respected that and made me feel i could trust him more. We are together all the time so he has no time to cheat , But last night i seen a message from his ex saying " are you still gonna come by " so i read his sent messages and he wrote to her " send me a pic of ur P&$$Y and could i come by later " so i freaked out feeling so betrayed that i confronted him about it he said that it was ment for me and he got so mad when i told him i didnt believe him so he broke his phone. heres my problem , he says he has never cheated which i believe him. but i just feel that the texting is still kinda like cheating. I love him and still want to be with him but i cant get over this sad depressed state. i still wanna continue on but what do i do about this crappy feeling im having i just wanna cry which i never do. I just want to get back to my old feelings for him and go back to the way things use to be. please if anything you can tell me id appreciate . i just feel really fragile and depressed.

Answer 1

This isn't the answer you want to hear, but you need to leave him. IMO, that texting was cheating on you, and by how he acted when you told him about it, he could be abusive. I'm so sorry, but if he made you feel depressed, then he isn't the right guy. You deserve better.

Answer 2

I'm afraid, dear, that if she said, "are you still gonna come by later"...he must've hinted or said to her that he was.  Also, any bf of mine that asked another girl to send him a pic of her p...sy would be history.  If he was in love with you, he wouldn't be texting those things.  You have a right to be hurt and depressed.  Sit him down and express your feelings.