What the h**l do i do????

Question

to cut a long story short...ish....i found out 3 days ago that my bf of 2 years has had at least 2 affairs behind my back.....and the worst thing is one of them is 15 yrs old....he is 30!!!! i know what i should do....that wud be to dump him and say bi bi very quickly but i cant seem to bring my self to do it:| would any one else be able to forgive him for what hes done?

Answer 1

WTF is wrong with men these days?

u need to spank on his nuts.  take a baseball bat hit him all over punch his face and then dump him.  or rather than dumping him inform police that he is a paedophile or stay with him and keep spanking his *** n b@lls. so that he compes to know what he did was wrong.

Answer 2

if it was a girl, no, would be dumped, after i caught them in the act, otherwise i would try to talk and find a way to forgive and forget, until it happened again, even with kids. but i would let her have them on odd occasions if it were my decision

Answer 3

Rebecca I think you know the answer to your question. The only problem now is finding the guts to make a stand and follow through on probably what might be one of the biggest decisions you have ever made.

I have been through a similar experience with my ex and even though I knew there was something seriously wrong with his behaviour, I couldn't deal with it and pushed it aside. That way I ended up wasting many years with him and getting myself in deeper and deeper. It was only when during my second pregnancy his behaviour got so bad that I wanted to die, that I finally had the guts to leave him.

Since then I have never looked back. I respect myself so much for having the guts to walk away and have been blessed ever since. Me and my two girls are the happiest we have ever been and are moving forward without the negativity in our lives. My confidence is starting to soar and now I have a lot of support from friends and family, support I didnt have when I was with him.

How long do you want to wait until you can be happy too?

Answer 4

You've basically answered your own question. He is a sick guy. Despite the back story, what he did is going to be really hard to forgive. Ever. It's not going to go away, and if he's cheated twice in 2 years, do you think he'll ever really break the habit.

He's a bad apple, get rid of him. The future you will be really glad you did. There are guys out there who know how to treat a woman. Why do you want to date a guy who likes to have s*x with kids? Come on, 15? I'd like to point that girl's father in your (hopefully soon to be ex-) boyfriend's direction.

Please post an update on this so that if you make the wrong decision  we can all keep bugging you until you get out!

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I NOTICED YOU ADDED THIS:  "He didn't sleep with her, they did other stuff"

TO WHICH I'D LIKE TO ADD:  Whether they had s*x, or they just made out, she's still 15. You can try and sugar-coat it anyway you want, but he's still a really immoral guy. Where are his values?

Just imagine staying with him, getting married, having kids, and then one day when your daughter is 15 years old, you might finally understand why people here are saying what they are.

Answer 5

its not healthy, i think you should leave him, not to mention it is illegal to be with 15 years old, that itself is rape. I dont think i can forgive him if i were you

Answer 6

um if hes 30 and went out with a 15 year old thats creepy you should leave him

please answer my question

Answer 7

um firstly pedo wtf. second get rid of him he is unloyal! and 3rd you deserve better!

Answer 8

he came back to you didn't he.  don't be so precious.  he is a male after all.