What the h**l do you do when you find out..?

Question

ok I'm a 16 male,my parents just broke up and i found out my dad cheated on my mum before i was born. and that he told me mum he was in love with this other women but My mum persisted to give it another go and then they had me ( supposedly planned). should i be pissed off with my dad?

Answer 1

No, you shouldn't be pissed.  You'll find out when you get older that all guys cheat on their wives and the ones that don't think about it all the time.  Even Prez Jimmy Carter, a Baptist minister admitted he lusted after women in heart.

Men are built to father children from multiple women.  Women are built to have children and make the nest.

One of my wife's girlfriend's father cheated on his wife.  His wife asked her daughter what she should do.  Her daughter told her to stay married and that her dad would eventually tire of this woman, but getting divorced would hurt all their families (her daughter had two kids, her two sons had kids).  It worked.  They stayed married until his untimely death from cancer last year.

Answer 2

things happen and being pissed isnt going to solve anything.

i would talk to him ask him y he did it.

and so wat if a few tears come out.

real men cry.

but then again im a girl.

do wat you think is right

Answer 3

No, seriously don't be.  You will understand better when you grow up more and have more life experiences of your own.  He never meant to hurt your mother or you.  These things just happen for many reasons.  They tried very very hard to make it work and they have sacrificed for each other and for you.  I think you should give your dad and mom "props" for sticking it out and trying to be forgiving and for keeping your family together as long as they have.  Most likely this was very difficult for both of them. People fall in & out of love, some people fall back in love again.  All relationships go through ups and downs, your parents are definitely not the only people dealing with these problems.  As long as they both love you and treat you well, just let them know you love them both and don't be any part of insults or listening to insults from them about each other if they are doing that.

Answer 4

YES!

HE CHEATED ON YOUR MOM!!!

Answer 5

so after 16 years they broke up,  seems like you gave them a real big push to stay together as far as being pissed, i dont think you should be.