What the h**l is going on?

Question

We were together for 7 years, he was my best friend, we owned a house a car etc. and for a long time he took me for granted, always wanted to go out, didn't want to grow up etc. we talked abot these problems and nothing ever changed it was a constant battle for him to want to spend anytime with just me and long story short after many arguments and being alone I fell out of love with him, I just felt he would never treat me the way I deserved. We sold our house and we had a very civil break up it wasn't until after we broke up that he realized how he had taken me for granted and told me he was sorry and if he ever had the chance to be with me again he would marry me so he would never lose me again over the next 6 months of our break up we talked and went out for dinner occasionally nothing sexual, then we started doing things less and less but then it got to the point where i really missed him, I told him and then he wasn't sure how he felt, he took a few weeks to think about it and we got back together things were good until he got a new job, as soon as he got his new job he started sleeping with his married boss (she has kids) and he ultimately chose her over me. She is now in the process of leaving her husband for him, they have known eachother for 3 months.

What happened? Will he regret what he's doing? Up until March he wanted to marry me, then by June he tells me she's the one. Is this relationship going to work out?

Answer 1

You should really move on & not waste another breath on this guy.  He obviously has no idea what he wants or what he's doing.  He already ignored you for the better part of your relationship, then he wanted you back but when you wanted him back he wasn't sure, then he gets with you & screws his boss.  Lovely.  He's also helping to break up a marriage with children involved.  He sounds totally self absorbed.  I wouldn't have a thing to do with him again if I were you.

Answer 2

Be glad he's gone. He hasn't grown up yet. And he has no idea what he's in for being involved with his boss who's married with kids. When he wants you back, don't open the door!!

Answer 3

who cares if  that sleaze ball's relationship with that floozie he is having s*x with is going to last!! just high tail out of that relationship with mr cheater and taker for granteder...you don't need that turmoil in your life ...and if he came back begging u back...don't be a dummy and take this cheater garbage man back!!

Answer 4

Very seriousily doubt it. She was probably only looking for a fling, nothing really serious and your ex just happened to be there, but hes not going to be worth it once she leaves her current family. She has realized that she can live without her current huband and likes the single life again. Your ex will find out the hard way and probably will come crawling back to you broken hearted and youd be a fool if you took him back again. Hes not worth the trouble and you can do better. He about to find out exactly what an a.s hes been and that hes not as good as he thinks he is. What goes around comes around in time

Answer 5

Why are you standing on the side lines waiting for him to make up his mind?

Why are you allowing him to control the situation?

The man is indecisive.

He can't make up his mind if you're the one, or the married lady.

Sorry, but you are making it too easy for him.

You make yourself available when he's lonely.

Your feelings count too.

And if you have that much love to give, then give it to someone that deserves it.

Answer 6

Play the same game. Try finding one of your guy friends that you've always liked and choose him over that dirty little man.

Answer 7

He doesn't want you or love you and it is never going to work for you.  It is time to cut your losses and move on.

Answer 8

you and him sound seriously over... I dont see what he has with her lasting long either, but you do not need to be tugged along on his emotional rollercoaster.  

Answer 9

There's no way of knowing if the relationship will work out between him and the boss.  He has treated you like dirt and he doesn't care about you, I'm sorry but it's true.  He doesn't know what he wants, and until he figures it out he will continue hurting your feelings if you stay with him.