What the h**l is his problem?

Question

Ok I started my new college last September and I met this really lovely guy who I got on really well with. I fell for him and told him that I liked him. He gave me the vibe he liked me to, kissed me, texted me, flirted etc, but when the crunch time came he alwyas used to say he didn't like me.

Hes never had a girlfriend or even s*x, so I thought it was down to shyness but this happenned over and over again and he kept letting me down and building my hopes up only to shatter them.

I was speaking to him last weekend and he said that he has always liked me, but didnt want to ruin the realtionship I had with my ex, even though we'd already finished before anything happenned with him, but because I was with my ex for 4 years he said he didn't want to get involved.

He text me yesterday saying I got the wrong end of the stick about wat he said to me last weekend and that he doesn't like me.

Me and my ex have been split for three months now! What is going on inside his head??

Answer 1

let him go. either he really doesn't like you, isn't for ex-bf drama, or he's g*y. either way u don't need his drama. and you don't need to sit around waiting for him to make up his mind.

Answer 2

mmh u need to ask him if he really mean he doesent feel anything mmh just leave him alone

Answer 3

His head = his problem. Block his number and stop rewarding his game-playing by giving him attention. He isn't treating you with anything like respect so move on and have yourself some fun with somebody who DOES like you.

Answer 4

he probably though he was ready for a relationship with you, but got cold feets . He used your ex to not continue to see you.

Answer 5

Does it matter what is going on inside his head?  You can't control other people but you can control yourself.  The guy is a child, move on.  Stop texting the guy, stop wasting time on him and go find another guy.  Of course you will probably be like many other idiots I know (I hope not), who simply can't let it go.  Some people really do enjoy being in a train wreck and being in this drama.

Answer 6

You and your ex only broke up 3 months ago?  So what were you doing kissing and flirting and telling some other guy that you liked him through all last school year?  We all know that boyfriends/girlfriends are temporary, but cheating is cheating.  

So this guy flirted with you and texted you and kissed you all last year, KNOWING you had a boyfriend.  And you were telling him how much you liked him, even though you had a boyfriend.

Do you not see the problem here?  This guy might like you, but what he already knows about YOU is that you can't be trusted to give your word and live by it.  He knows that if he becomes your next boyfriend, you'll just get bored and start looking for someone else to flirt with and text with and kiss, all behind HIS back.  

Frankly, this guy is doing you a favor by telling you one last time that he doesn't like you.  He's telling you that he realizes you both behaved badly last year.  And he's telling you that he isn't willing to risk you treating him the way you treated your ex.

Is he g*y?  Maybe.  Believe it or not, there are still plenty of 18-year-old virgins out there.  Having good morals or high standards doesn't make a man g*y - it just makes him willing to wait until he's found the right person and the right time to be that first time.

Move on.  This guy isn't interested. If he changes his mind, he knows where to find you.  

Answer 7

Sounds like he might be g*y, or at least confused about his sexuality!

Answer 8

He is emotionally unstable, and you can`t fix it. Find someone who isn`t such a dramatic , ping pong personality. He`s toying with your emotions, and sounds terribly immature.

Answer 9

You sure hes not g*y? The no s*x thing rings alarm bells in my head

Answer 10

Tell him like this, tell him if i didn't know any better I would think my ex is threatening you. Tell him that he seems to be so worried about your past and not what can be built with just you and him in the future.

Tell him to come clean one way or the other and if he keeps this on your just going to move on.

Don't waste your time

Answer 11

Bit of a Freudian slip posting this one under 'marriage & divorce'