What the h**l is wrong with my grandma?

Question

Okay, I think she might be bipolar, but who knows.

One second my grandma will be the loving nice person, then the next she will be the bitchiest person you will ever meet, saying I wish you guys weren't here, tells us to shut up, etc. She tells me all the time I don't respect her and stuff, I tell her because she doesn't treat me with respect, and she insists she does, but I feel she is blind to what she says to me and my sisters. She always criticizes me and my sisters about the way we take care of my baby cousins, she says her way is the right way and we do everything wrong and that she is the 'expert',once we were over there and she was yelling at us so I went home, then later that day she called me and was like, Oh hi, how are you doing, i found some sheets you might like, i'm like WTF you were just being a ***** a while ago? She's also in denial about many things, which pisses me off. She has paranoia too, constantly thinking people go in her house and steal stuff, or electronics are effecting her? WTH.. it's so embarassing when she accuses random people in public that they are 'attacking' her with cell phones and stuff....

so yeah what is wrong with her?

i can't stand her anymore, i can stand the way she treats me, but i wonder for my 11 yr. old sisters, she treats them horribly.. what should i do?

Answer 1

Is it possible that there is a mental illness going on here?

I've learned that people in that "era" expect to be heard, respected and never questioned. I do not think you are going to get anywhere with her!  

Do you have a small video recorder that you could place in the room and record her actions and verbal abuse?  (Just because she is your grandmother, doesn't mean she is immune and not responsible for the abuse she is inflicting on you and your sisters! How horrible!!!!)

If you can record her, then show the "proof" to your parents, they can then confront her. They are the adults and they should handle this, not you. I would NEVER allow my parent(s) to abuse my children in any form. And I certainly would not allow them around anyone who thinks it's acceptable.

I wish you luck sweetie!!!!

Answer 2

if she really does have a mental illness, i think you should be a little bit more understanding. i know 60 isn't THAT old, but i know i a lot of old people can get like this: nice one minute, and the next a total *****. but it's not their fault. they can't control it, and some people even hallucinate things that make them dislike you.

Answer 3

She's probably bipolar.

Ask your family about the illness.

They'll probably tell you.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like she is in her own little world. Try bringing a digital microphone you can purchase one cheap on ebay and record all her conversations with you. Then put them on your computer and make a nice cd with grandmas recording that you can playback a couple of weeks later to your parents.

Answer 5

It could be Bipolar but it also may be dementia coming on with your grandmother as well. You might want to stress to your parents to go get her to a Dr. and have a check-up on her. If she is having this much of a cross-over in personality it needs to be looked into.

My suggestion is don't take it to heart,but if she becomes physical that when you need to get help right away.

Hey at least your grandmother is talking to you. After my fathers funeral my grandmother told me to get the h**l away from her and hasn't spoke to us since,but shoot she really hasn't spoken to us even before then either.

Good luck!

Answer 6

ask your parents .. they may know what is wrong.  she may not be bipolar but could have some other mental disease..  

Answer 7

well say to her,,listen you old grump,,if u aint respectin me then i aint respectin you,,then just get out of the house and bang the door as loud as u can,,,it works on me!

Answer 8

Sounds like she is nuts.

Take something like a cell phone or recording device record her

b-*&ing at you,play it for her,and say "THIS is WHY we do not respect you Grandma, we love you but no one likes being treated the way youu treat us,not even your own Grandkids."

She will either break down and cry and apologize, or she will go further into denial and GOD help if she does that.

Pray for her.GOD is her only help this late in life.

Answer 9

Just stay away as much as you can.

A lot of times women over 60 get b!tchy for little or no reason, or like drama because it's entertainment.