What things do you think have to happen to someone to consider there life hard/miserable or just traumatic?

Question

i think some people take there life for granted. for example my ex-bestfriend(we are both 16 & met when we where 15) thought she went through a lot in life. which i disagree and i think shes simply just pathetic. here is a list of things i remember her talking about

1.when she was younger her friends mother critsized her because she was jewish & to this day she can't get over herself about it, i swear.

i asked her why she thought it was a big deal and she was extremely offended that i even asked her, its like she expected to sit there,listen be quiet, and sympathize.

2.she felt un-loved by her family. her mom told her she was worthless and stuff like that when they got into an argument and this hurt her a GREAT deal. so she cut herself to see if they would care when she showed them SHE said they didn't care much.(my opinion: attention w***e)

3.she smokes a pack a day and drinks 3x a week(hardcore drinking). my opinion: i think shes just trying to get away from her problems by drinking a lot, idk maybe shes addicted

4. some of the biggest trauma shes had was when her brother got married and she felt abandoned because she loved her brother a lot(omfg move on, even her own brother word for word told her "deal with it")

+both her parents work, moms a doctor and dad owns a car service company so shes really spoiled.

well yes these are her life traumas, idk why but i think she is pathetic, i i've had the same problems as her but i look at it as not such a huge deal.

personally some of the big things that happened to me where

1.my mom was drunk & she tryed stabbing herself in front of me with a kitchen knife and i grabbed it by the sharp part out her hand. this hasn't traumatized me.

2.i've had a eating disorder for a short amount of time but thanks to my bestfriend she quickly got me out of it.i believe the reason for my eating disorder was because i hated myself a lot for a few years. but i truly learned to love myself now.

3.my father is abusive and i hate him. he hits me and my mom when shes drunk.

4.both of my parents are unemployed and im broke but atleast out of this i can see other things that are important in life.

4.the only guy i ever had a lot of feelings for really did'nt care about me. but i feel stupid putting that up and i don't think it should be up there but whatever.

obviously had other problems but w/e

so whats you opinion of my ex-bestfriend? am i being selfish?

we stopped being friends because one day after many arguments we got into a big one and i told her i wasnt gonna take her **** anymore and i just didnt want to be friends with her. she told me i was selfish and i always put myself first. she was very clingy and needed help with everything. she was lazy and jelous.

i just want to know what you think..

Answer 1

i think your friend and you are both nuts and self absorbed your perfect for each other

Answer 2

People have their own problems, and even if they are nothing compared to what others face on a daily basis, they don't see it that way. To them, their present problems and hardships are just as hard as other people's problems. For example, you can't say she's pathetic just because her feelings were hurt when you think if it happened to you, you wouldn't give  d**n. People react differently in different situations, and you should earn to accept this. When you have a friend, a best friend for that matter, you should stick by her/him through everything, unless your friendship is turning you into a bad person. Be there to help her through what she thinks may be "hard times" in her life because that's what best friends do. You are supposed to be there to support her and be by her side when she feels down and sad, whatever your opinions of the situations may be. You can't judge her because of how differently you feel towards her situations. Maybe you should both talk about your differences and meet half-way. That is, if you still want to be her friend.



Maybe she's just sensitive to a lot of things, and you should respect that. I think your friend needs all the help she can get.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well good for you , you have the ability to move past problems. And get on with life.

Your friend sounds very dramatic. Maybe to her they are a big deal. Whatever.

The point is, if it is bringing you down. Then do what you have done before with worse situations, move on. Don't waste your time, with her problems. If they are even valid. You are much different from her. And that is ok.