What time should an 11 year old girl go to bed?

Question

She gets up at 7:45 or 7:30 to get ready for school. But when she doesnt have school its about 11:45. What time should she go to bed for school days? And can i allow her to stay up late on fridays and saturdays as a break for going to sleep at the right time for 4 days straight? Thanks!

Answer 1

bed time 9.30 on a school night

Answer 2

930-10

Answer 3

9:30 on week nights.

Answer 4

My 11 year old goes to bed at 9pm on school nights and 10pm on weekends and summer break. She gets up at 7:30 on school days. My 10 year old is the same. My almost 14 year old gets up at 6:30 for school and goes to bed at 10 on school nights and 11 on weekends and summer break.  If they are ill or seem out of sorts, they go to bed an hour early and can read for while. They grow during sleep and their immune system recharges at the same time. Without the proper amount of sleep they do not learn well, react well or have the right amount of immunity to fight infection.

Answer 5

My son (11) is grumpy for the whole day if he doesn't get to sleep by 8.30pm.

I think its how your daughter copes the next day that should guide you on how late she goes to bed, maybe get her in bed by 8.30 for 2 nights and then 9.30 for the next 2 nights, then ask her teacher which days she functioned better at school.

Don't forget at this age her hormones and body start to change, so she may actually need more sleep to help her body cope with all the new changes.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

My son is up at 6:15 am mon-fri for school, and he goes to bed anywhere between 7:30-8 pm (he's 8). The way i explained to him about bed time is he gets 15 minutes added on every year of school, until he reaches about 9:30-10 pm. When he gets older there will be some exceptions on staying up later during school nights, but other then that its about 8 pm (the 7:30 is bedtime for when he gets in trouble). As far as allowing your daughter to stay up on the weekends, i think that all depends on how she was during the week in school (and out) and what is going on that weekend. I TRY to have my son on the same schedule on the weekends, so that when Sunday night comes around he knows when it is time to go to bed. A lot of parents let their kids stay awake all hours of the night on the weekends and personally i don't think that's a good idea. During the summer months it is a different story, but again i try about 2-3 weeks before school starts back up to get him back into the swing of things with going to bed, and waking up a little bit earlier. Hope this helps some :)

Answer 7

I have my 11 yr old daughter in her room by 8:00 on a school night doing something calming like reading or drawing, lights out by 9:00 but I cant MAKE her go to sleep until she is tired. I can however make her room a quiet dark place to help her along :-)

Answer 8

The answer is kind of subjective. My nephew ( he's fifteen now) was able to go to bed at around 10:00 pm when he was that age. His little brother (who is just about to turn eleven) needs to be in bed by 8:00 or no later than 9:00 pm on a school night. Trust your judgment as a parent and adjust her bedtime accordingly. Every child is different.

Answer 9

Well you sound pretty level headed.....In bed by 9pm school weekdays I would say and 10.30pm Friday and Saturday night.

Answer 10

9:30PM is ideal.

However, on fris and sats it would be advised to not allow her to stay up as late as 11:45 as that is over a 2hour diference with her regular sleep schedule/patterns. On such days 10:30 the latest would be good, 1hr difference and no more. A huge break between sleep such as 2hours in between days will disrupt sleep patterns!

10PM weekdays/11pm weekends etc. is also an alternative.

Answer 11

Her bed time should allow for 8-12 hours sleep. Her body is changing though and many preteens and teens have a reversal of their inner clock making it difficult for them to sleep at night and stay awake in the day time. I would suggest she exercise in the morning-never at night and keep the schedule even on days off as it's harder to get back into it when the week starts again.

You can't make up missed sleep-only throw your body off more.

Answer 12

Don't give her a bedtime. I know, I know, it sounds like I'm joking. I'm actually serious. It's what my parents did. They simply told me I no longer had a bedtime, and I stayed up until 10 each night, until it became too much and I learned my lesson. It's only until a child learns the lesson for themselves that it actually works. My bedtime WAS 9.00. I ended up choosing 8.30 on my own will from their lack of rule.

Answer 13

your poor kid..Parent has had you 11 yrs and doesnt know what to do at bedtime..unreal

Answer 14

9 oclock

Answer 15

Mine goes to bed at 8.30-ish, and gets up at 7. But they're all different. Her little brother also goes to bed at 8.30 - but at his age she was in bed at 7.30.

11.45 is very late, though - late enough to confuse her body clock. What's the point in being up that late in the evening? Wouldn't she have more fun going to bed at 9 and having an extra 3 hours of awake time during the day when it's light?

Answer 16

I'd say around 10:30, but make sure she agrees with it. I know when I was young and my mom used to try to get me to go to sleep I'd get mad and stay up as late as I possibly could just despite her in bed or not sometimes 3am or later then I would be tired all day. Now I'm a night owl I love being up in the middle of the night alone, I stay up till at least between 12-4 if I go to sleep at all, I'm 17 and I've done this since I was 12.  I start school at 9am and get up at around 8:30-8:45. When I get home I pass out for a couple hours, once in awhile till I have to be up in the morning, but it works.

Weekends whenever as long as she's up for school Monday. She's 11 she should be at least that responsible, then once she gets older and doesn't need one at all she'll have gained some to know when she should go to sleep.

Answer 17

Go to bed at 9:00 PM.  Sometimes my 12 year old son stays up a little later reading.  However, he needs to be in his bed by 9:00 PM to wind down.