What time should i let my son stay out until.?

Question

he is 15yrs , he will be 16yrs in july, i told him to be home for 10 o' clock which i think is fair he said that the party doesn't finish until later am i being unfair.

Answer 1

no cause how much soda can a kid drink if there drinking soda ,you;ll be doing your kid a favor if you give him a out like being home at a certain time ,why cause if someone wants him to do somthing he knows is wrong he can say i gotta go cause i have to and at first he might not like it but it is a out for him keep it up and have his friends come by too ,if they look like punks they probably are , i have a 19 year old and it worked for him and he thanked me for giving him that option and it worked for me ,yea i got teased a little but i never had to go to court like some of them ,so who laughed last

Answer 2

thats what time I had to be in for at that age, I think it is fair (although at the time I certainly didnt) maybe on the night of the party since its a special event you could let him stay out a bit later

Answer 3

i think at 15 10 pm is fair maybe compromise that if he returns home at 10 pm than the next partie he goes to he can come home at 10 30

Answer 4

nope not at all....allow the limit to extend only after he's 18 if u dont wan him to b a spoilt brat...10 pm is the right limit for a 16yr old kid...carry on wid it

Answer 5

depends, how far away is the party? does he have a mobile phone he can reach you on? what crowd is he in with? good or bad?

if he is responsible and you trust him then i would let them stay out a little later esp if all his mates are.

but at the end of the day your his mum and mums decision is final

Answer 6

On a regular basis, 10pm curfew is fine for a 15 year old. For this occasion, maybe you guys could come to an agreement. If you say 10 and he says midnight, go halves and say 11 pm. Teenagers appreciate having input in the decision-making process and he will probably be happy with this, even if it is earlier than he wanted, because you were willing to compromise.

Good luck =)

Answer 7

11:00 is good

Answer 8

You are the boss. If you say 10 o'clock which sounds fair 10 o'clock is what it should be. He will just have to accept it and leave the party before it ends or not go. If you negotiate with him he will argue with anything you tell him to do. Stand your ground.

Answer 9

I know that when I was his age, I wanted to stay out all hours of the night, but My parents set a curfew of 10pm.  Although I didn't like it so much at times, I knew that it was for my own good.  Only on special occasions did they let me stay out later.  Even then, they had to know who I was with, where I was going to be, and they would be picking me up, just in case there ended up being alcohol at the party, it was for my own safety.  They always discussed the situations with me, and compromised.. No matter what they always had my full respect for including me in the decision.

Hope this helps.  Include him in the decision, and everything should work out in the end.

Answer 10

I think 10 is reasonable during the week and 11 or 12 on the weekend.

Answer 11

My youngest Daughter is 16, 17 in November, she stays out till 10pm, she is due to go to a party soon, I said she can stay till midnight, I am picking her up, though,

Answer 12

You can allow your boy to stay out a bit late sometimes once or twice a month. He should understand that life is not always going to a party.  He must earn it, like having good school marks or helping in the house chores, etc. Also, he cannot stay late to a party if he has important early activities the next day.

Answer 13

no you are not been fait 10pm is ok if he dose not like it tough

Answer 14

10 is fair but on special events let him out later, but if he comes in late ever then you no no to let him out later again untill he earns your trust back

Answer 15

When I was 15 I had to be home by 10pm, but that was many moons ago!  When my own children were your son's age, I still stipulated 10pm, but 11pm if they were going somewhere special.

Answer 16

I'm 13 and for special events and such my mum just wants to know when I will be back and if I will be getting the bus with one of my friends and not on my own if if's dark. I was out till nearly 10 the other day and I'm 13. If he has been building up your trust for a while and sticking to rules, I'd say it should be later for parties and stuff but if not, then maybe stick to it. However, your sun can leave home soon and you can't control him forever.

Answer 17

11pm is fair

Answer 18

i agree tll him that 10 o clock it is, very dangerous out there at night time now, tell him its for his own safety and stand your ground

Answer 19

If the party is on a Friday or Saturday night, and you're comfortable with the adult supervision that will be available, I think you could let him stay out later.    At least until 11:00.

Answer 20

10 is fair. He's not 16 yet and he needs to work on building your trust on this type of thing, making curfew on time, and not whining about it. Tell him if he's trustworthy with this, the time will increase (not immediately, maybe this time next year). For now its 10PM and you'll see if he can handle the responsibility.

Answer 21

Depends on allot.

Who's party is he going to?

Do you know the kid or parents?

Are they good kids?

Will there be parents there?

Do you know WHERE the party is?

Next..

Do you trust your son?

Is he an overall good kid?

Is he doing good in school?

Does he help around the house?

Does he deserve some slack?

Okay..... now we can talk about what time is good for him to come home.

Yup, I'm a strict mama.... I have to be... I'm a single mother, I have to play both the mom & dad role.. plus I want to make sure my kid is safe... they're still my responsibility... always will be.  =)

Answer 22

I had to be in by 10 at his age. However if there was a party or something I would be allowed home later provided that my parents or one of my friends parents were picking us up at the venue and bringing us home. And my mom and dad would check to make sure if I had said a friends parents were picking us up.

Answer 23

10 is fair  - but if its a party then I suggest he phones you when it finishes and you go pick him up

Answer 24

It depends on how responsible he is, and how often he gets to go to parties. Also depends on if you know that people he will be there with.

Also, is he walking home/getting a bus/sleeping over/you picking him up??

If you know the people  and are picking him up after the party etc, then i would say 11.30pm would be reasonable.

Answer 25

i would say 11.30 for a party so long as you know his arrangements for getting home and he doesnt intend coming all the way home alone.

Answer 26

Maybe you could relax the rules for special events like parties - let him stay out a little later than his normal curfew?

Answer 27

your are the parent, you set the rules thats it. yes its fair esp in this day and age. BTW make sure he comes back by a reliable and safe method lots of weirdos out there at night.

Answer 28

i think 10pm is cool on normal nights but for parties and stuff like that it should be a bit later like 11 or 12.  you don't want your son to be mocked by his mates because mummy said he had to be in.  no offence by the way.

Answer 29

Nope stick to your guns 10pm is fair, maybe 1030 max, your the parent your the boss