What to do.....HELP!!!!

Question

I have been best friends with this guy (D) since 9th grade. 10 th grade he kissed me, and to my surprise I didn't knock him out. We dated off and on for 3 years. The whole time my girl bf (B) hated him, the feeling was mutual. I moved away in the middle of our junior year. Me and D continued dating. B and D started to get along, then at a party, I was told be another friend that the two were REALLY starting to get close. The night D was going to give me a promise ring. It never happened, when my friend told me about the two, I avoided both of them. We broke up in Nov. A week after me and him broke up, I get a call from B telling me she did something wrong. She had kissed him! (she made up a rule that we would NEVER date eachothers ex's) c**p hit the fan and I never spoke to either one of them for 3 years. I felt very betrayed, especially since she knew that D was the first guy I have ever truly loved. We got back into contact with eachother, and starting to get back our friendship. Me and D are back to the bestfriends title, although since we also have the "ex" title it's a little strange. There is still some sexual tension between us. D and B are engaged! and B wants me to be her Maid of Honor. D still tells me that he loves me and that I will always now and forever be his soulmate.

How should I answer her?

Can I really just stand there and see the man that I love marry another woman, especially her?

Answer 1

I wouldn't, she stabbed you in the back by messing with your boyfriend, I personally wouldn't talk to either of them, you should get out and meet someone new to help you get over that piece of sh*t, and you can get better friends, they obviously weren't that great of friends to you. Yes, it did happen a while ago, but betrayal is betrayal either way and what they did was f-ed up and she had some serious nerve asking you to be in the wedding.

Answer 2

OK, look at it from a new point of view.

He said he loved you then cheated on you with your best friend. So the two worst cheaters in your life are together.

Now he is going to marry your best friend and he tells you he loves you and you are his soul mate.

You know what? Be the best darn maid of honor you can be. Laugh, throw rice and dance at the reception. Have the biggest celebration of your life...

Because YOU are not stuck being married to a cheater. You think for one minute this marriage will stop him from roaming? Not hardly.

You are better than both of them. Wish them both well, then walk away from the ugly drama that is going to follow. You don't want to be in the middle of that.

Find a good guy and make better friends.

Answer 3

wow this sounds like a soap opera! Hmmm...this is an akward situation. I think I would be completly honest with her and tell her because of everything in the past, that you would be more comfortable just being a guest. I would also ask him why he tells you that your his soulmate if he is engaged to her, or you can just say s***w it and drop them again and go your own way

Answer 4

It doesn't sound like he cheated, as you were broken up.  Why did you break up though, and would he possibly cheat on her with you?  I like kittycat's answer!  

What exactly does he mean by soulmate?  Do you really want him back, and if you did could you have him?  Email me so I can help more.

Answer 5

sleep with him and if you can record it.. if you cant make sure you know what his undies look like and call her two seconds after he leaves and let her know he was with you h**l if she did it to you, you can do it to her