What to do? Help <span title="please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?">please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...</span>

Question

After 22 years of believing that my parents had the perfect marriage... today I found out that they have basically been room mates for years now... that their marriage has been over for years and they can hardly get along. Also my sister (who is older than me but way more immature, divorced and has a child) has been living with them for the past year doesn't get along with them. They all call me to complain about each other and right now I came to visit them for 10 days (only been here since yesterday) and they are all telling me what their problems with each other are. What do I do? I suffer from clinical depression and they are not helping. I can't turn my back on them but what do I do to solve these problems? Help!

Answer 1

after 22 years of dealing with their problem I don&#039;t think they expect you to find any solutions to their problems and as for your sister, just be polite and listen, there too, you don&#039;t have to solve anything, just be a good listener, I&#039;m sure that&#039;s all they expect from you. You are only there for 10 days, count your blessings it could be a never ending visit. After your gone they will resume their life, with or with out you. Has any one asked you, &quot;how are you and how are you doing?? Bet not!  

Answer 2

oh man, im 34 now Ive lead a rough road mother died when I was 12 was raised with them that is step father n real mother step father was a junky but a magic man if you understand I loved him he loved me well I woke up the next day n my aunts, n  grandmother thought big brother should tell little brother about mom passing away  me being big brother he was like 4 car jumped out of gear n crushed her as she was trying to jump back in car well he wakes up crying for mother right I tell him story how god wants people, well I also lived with real father after that brother got seperated from me with step father they lived in lafeyete well my hole life was thinking about a conversation my mother had with me when she was alive I asked her times were rough she split from step father because of drugs n was staying with a guy nice guy but she truly didnt love him she loved my dad my step father which I called dad he was holding me when I was born well I asked her one time what would happen if anything ever happened to you who would lok after BJ my little brother thats his initials thats what we call him, she said Im hoping you would well I did sort of look after him I was 14 and saved my money to buy him back in the day the best free style bike I ever seen n mailed it to him n always gave him money time to time I always worked during school n when off 3 mounths well when he grew up he messing with drugs went to jail I always send him money and when he gets out try to ster him in the right direction and buy him all new clothes shoes everthing nice stuff so he doesnt have to worry about that but getting work which I also helped him find  did this twice what I&#039;m saying is you cant live everyone life for them no matter how hard you try its the desisions they make,, that lead them all you can do is listen n give a hand when you can, my ste pmother treated me unequal to her kids cruel stuff to make me want to leave she was jelous of my mother because she left my father n he was madly in love with her,, she would cook for her kids breakfast n wouldnt say a word to me things like that well I always stayed possitive some kind of way though I had not much self confidence because I felt like i was trash or something in her eyes so I wrestled in high school won state champion n city champion every year I wrestled in school I was jogging ten miles a day 5 every morning 5 every evening to win I wanted to win so bad to send it or show my mom in heaven Im going to be alright and I did win n in the year book Im making a fist smiling and it was all for my mom things happen life isnt what it always seems n its ok nothings always perfect n the sooner you realize your not messed up because there are people all over with all sorts of problems or some kind of war going on in there mind just love n always remember gods love is the best gift anyone can ever ask for or give n its going to be alright I have a great Job that I got all on my own I just stayed persistant I oystered shrimped picked oranges was in the marines worked in the grociery store worked for security oil field wire line service, I make 27 dollars an hour now a big emprovement I had no body help me I had eyes of hate on me the whole time I had women I no wanted me to fail at this new place I work but I never gave up,, I use to get very depressed but you just have to keep moving to you find somewhere you sort of belong I love the older guys I work with they all think there the best thing since slice bread n they no I think Im special n gifted to its crazy but it all works out some how n I love those guys well maybe some how this talk helped a little take care hang in there n it will be ok god won&#039;t give you more than you can hanndle dear,,