What to do: Mother Literally Hates Son

Question

Well I'm 21 and still live at home. I now work full time (about 60 hours), mostly nights so when I come home I just want to pass out or relax on the couch. Now every night when I get home my mother starts up on me telling me how much of a looser I am, because I come home and sleep insted of going out with friends. Now she is dead serious when she says this she tells me she is ashamed of me and tells everyone she knows how much of a looser I am, and need to move out because I am so disliked by her. Its really starting to get to me. I really can't afford to move out right now, but I feel I have no other option. I'm not a looser, I do have friends and go out but when I'm working so much I need to get home and rested up. (I work at a Hospital and it drains me).. I feel like i'm stuck and don't know what to do?

Answer 1

dont stay where youre not wanted. try to move in with a friend or find a roomate that works an opposite shift from yours taht you can share a house or apartment with.

Answer 2

I want to give you a hug! But since I can't - let's be honest with each other - YOUR MOTHER IS CRAZY. Your mother is the problem here, not you. Your mother is a woman with serious issues. If you weren't there, she's be beating up on someone else. She's a bully and probably has had a lifetime of ISSUES. So, don't take it personally. I know it's hard not to, but she's seriously TOXIC. If I were you, I'd save what I could and move into a studio apartment. Get a roommate and get out! Your Mother should be loved from afar. She loves you, but has her own set of mental issues. No mother does that to her son, unless she's not stable. Your Mom is only reflecting her own feelings on you. She's the LOSER. She's the one who no one likes. She's only punching at you because you're probably the last one left who will tolerate it. I'd say ignore her, but I have an Aunt like her (who's life is in a shambles) and she makes everyone around her miserable. I'd get away from her because she can only cause you misery; you'll either kill you or kill her; none of which is good. You sound like a good man, so you need to just get away from her and visit her every now and again.

Also, as an adult child you have to grow up and start seeing her for who she really is - DAMAGED GOODS. She'll probably never change. She needs help and probably meds, which she'll never get. Women like her have had a lot of disappointment in life, most of their own making and alot of failures, bad choices, etc - all their own doing, but they are the 'victim' if you ask them. So, they make every one around them miserable by pointing out everyone else's so called issues. RUN from her. She'll do nothing but DRAIN you. It's funny you said drain because I call my Aunt a DRAIN. She drains everyone within 15 mintues of meeting her; if she's not criticizing someone, she's putting down the celebs on TV or talking about her issues. I HATE being around her. So, RUN...try craigslist.com or some other site to get a roommate.

You need to leave for your own mental health. If you can tune her out, then ignore her and SAVE. Stash your cash and get out one day when she's not around. She's volatile and needs help. Your Mom is sick. Say a prayer for her and keep on moving! Some people are always miserable and they NEVER change!  

Answer 3

Okay, i totally understand your situation...do not let your mother get to you...dont let her put your self down...you know you are doing the right thing working...If you were a loser, you would not have a job, you would be out with all your friends every night, if she does not see that in you that you have put your self into having a job, working, actually making money like other kids that love to be a couch potato, then sorry to say buddy your mom has mental problems!!!! maybe somethiing is wrong with her...other parents would tell their child to not go out when they get home from work because they would expect their child to get some rest and not go out!!! instead she is doing the opposite, and i am sure others will see you are not a loser so do not worry that she is telling others you are a loser even if you are not!!!! ignore her completely tell her one day when you have enough money thats when u will move oout!!!