What to do ? Teen wants to See Therapist?

Question

I'm 15 years old and i'll be a sophomore in high school. generally, i'm a very happy person. i'm not depressed. i am smart, pretty, athletic, funny, and i have a good group of friends. my family is supportive and truthfully i have no reason to be unhappy. but my boyfriend and i just broke up and he did a lot of things to really hurt me. i'm thinking about see a therapist just because i feel like i need someone other than my family to talk to. they wouldn't understand how i almost loved him and how he broke my heart. besides, i like the idea of having someone to reguarly talk to about things that go on. what do you think? do normal teens see a therapist because they want to? how do i approach the idea to my parents?

Answer 1

Adolescence can be a very difficult period in anyone's life and so you should not feel "weird' or not "normal" because you are considering this.  I would guess that the majority of people your age do not seek out therapy/counseling but that does not mean that you should not seek it out if you think you would benefit from it.

As far as your parents are concerned, I would try to figure out what their attitudes towards the mental health profession is.  A lot of people still believe in the stigma of seeing a psychologist.  If you think that they would be receptive to you seeing a therapist, even briefly, I would encourage you to approach them about it.  When you do it, I think you should tell be frank with them and tell them how you think it would help you.

If your parents say no, or if you can't find the courage to ask them, you should try to see your school counselor.  Most of those people are trained, at least a little, in dealing with these issues.

Answer 2

I think it is a great idea to see a therapist. My life was entirely changed for the better when I got into therapy.

I would say that most teens and everyone need a little therapy.

So yes it is normal, to tell your parents, well just be upfront and don't back down about how you truely feel.  

Answer 3

Yes. Some well adjusted people see therapists while some really messed up people see therapists. Basically, you'll just meet and have another kind of "friend".

Answer 4

people normally see therapists because something isn't right with them.

you're simply going through a heartbreak.....give it some time and you'll start feeling better.

Answer 5

I am 17. I dated the same guy from the time I was almost 14 till July 17th of '07. I didn't see how much i had changed. I was angry ateveryone, I lashed out, I got angry with my mom (which I never did because we have a good relationship), and I cried... all the time... usually i took cring as a sign of weekness. i couldnt help it. I wasnt crying over him in particular just little things. My momstarted to pressure me to see a therapist. I refused. After I went into a complete rage she stopped asking and told me I was going to see someone. I am so glad she did. Depression in teens often comes out in the form of anger. After several freinds dying and losing my first love, and the stress of being a senior, i have learned to dealwith these things.

I am so happy to have sum1 to talk to that CAN'T tell your secrets or feelings. Help yourself and see someone. Many small things that seem normal to one person are much bigger to others.

Answer 6

Ewe. Why are all you girls like that?

Answer 7

yes normal people see therapists, they just need sumone to talk to, sumone who will really listen. You should just tell your parents that your not crazy, you just need sumone to talk too, sumone who will listen and not judge. good luck!!

Answer 8

I wouldn't.  

it's basically a loss - you had a relationship and you lost it - it takes time to grieve and get over it.   You have to work through it - and nobody can really help you do that.  

things that may help you

1)  pray - you can share everything in your heart with God.  You can pray and tell God everything - He understands you - He made you - and you can share things with God like you really can't share with everybody else.  

2)  write down your feelings - express yourself in writing or poetry or whatever...  but keep these to yourself..

I wouldn't show them to anybody.  

3)  find something to get your mind off of things -

4) you really need to forgive the person who broke your heart - that just mean that this guy wasn't the one for you..

Answer 9

Talk to your school conslor, talk to your parnets, and if you have to go to a doctor

Answer 10

you can email me if you want to

I deal with this sort of thing all the time and writing down your problems helps you to let go of the pain

you do not need to see someone regularly as you become attached to talking about pain all the time ...when you need to keep positive sweetheart

all things happen for a reason and this reason is to make you stronger

and Learn from the experience

we are all here to Learn

Salee Slight - www.saleeslight.com

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Answer 11

Do you have a counsellor at school? A therapist can be quite expensive. It sounds like you are going through a grief process, and this can take time. But yes, if you can afford a therapist or a counsellor of some kind, there is no reason not to talk to one especially if you're a teenager, it can help you get more perspective.