What to do about Issues with my wife?

Question

My wife will have been together for 11yrs come dec married 10 in oct. She wants to split up and move outta this area or just away from issues. Weve both done things in the past to hurt eah other but i can say iv never cheated on her. I found out last aug that she had been cheating on me with my best friend and Ex brother in law a couple time a yr for 5 or 6 yrs also around that time she was talking about going to meet a guy she meet online but that was turn around on her because they guys friends talked to me and found out what was going on and made her the butt of a big joke.Now she on a trip wheres she meet one guys she planned on leaving me for but he no longer wants a relationship with her and she meet another guy shes been talking to that lives about 5-6 hours from us. I can look past the cheating i dont mind her flirting online with guys for the most part because most everyone flirts but she takes it above that and trys to start relationships with them. I love herr and would do almost anything for her including die for her if need be. But what to do now that shes talking about spliting up not sure what to do. any help plz

Answer 1

Leave her. She has cheated on you and the bible allows divorce when your spouse has cheated. Don't play her games anymore, find yourself, get closer to God. Here's what to expect after you leave her:

It will hurt really bad. It feels like the woman you married died and you might never love again. It's going to be like you have clear blue skies and perfect weather and suddenly a big huge meteor lands on you. But, trust me my friend.. It does get better. You will heal in Time and prayer. You will love again. You'll never forget and she'll always have a place in your heart. But, you will never want to be with her ever again. Get divorced officially then take time to heal and do productive things, find new friends and know that a lot of people are going through it too. God bless you.

Answer 2

Dude. Grow a set and tell her to not let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.

Answer 3

Are your SURE that's love? Do you love yourself? Because she obviously has NO respect for you. She's playing you and you're just suckin' it up. She won't change so you gotta decide if you want to live like this for the rest of your life (or at least until she's too old to want it any more). Seek help. Good luck.

Answer 4

u are a real sucker. she played u. she wasnt w/ u because she loved u. she was w/ u because u were stable and were able to financially take care of her. all the while she was searching for the replacement and she finally found him and now she's leaving u for him because he makes her happy.  how sad. what u need to do is u need to striaght up divorce her. u need to show her u are a man and that she isnt going to take advantage of u anymore. then show her the door. she doesnt love u and she never wanted u in the first place. she probably has been laughing at u for all these years. dont let her back in ur life again. i know its hard and i know u love her but u can do better. u need to focus on u and enjoy urself and when the time is right the right woman for u wil fall into ur lap and u will be happy again.

Answer 5

Boy you take the prize !   Be a man and grow some cojones !   Kick this s**t of a woman you call a wife, why are you wasting your time on this ho ?

Answer 6

You must enjoy being married to a w***e or you'd have bagged this sham of a marriage long ago. Grow a pair of balls and act like a man for crying out loud. I can't stand it.

Answer 7

Move on dude, she doesn't want to be with you, she is looking for someone else, she has cheated for a long time, go and find someone who will be honest and faithful.

Answer 8

she wants to split up and i think she's done everything she can to demonstrate this fact. move on, you can't change her mind. be strong.

Answer 9

pal, i hate to tell you, and i know it hurts to hear, but she is so incredibly selfish that there is no way she has the capacity to love you. She is not even remotely devoted to you. You deserve someone who is as devoted as you are.

it is time that you give her what she wants. She WILL regret it later on and hopefully by then you will have realized how much better you are than all this...

Answer 10

Um you should find a new women< along with a shrink.

Answer 11

Divorce her.  Let her go off with these guys.  She will anyway.  Even if she is still married to you.  Is that fair to you?    Do you want to continue being married to someone who is definitely not wanting to stay in the marriage?  

Answer 12

Go to a marriage counciler first.  Talk about the issues you have, then if all else falls through file for divorce.  I know that this isn't what you would like in the long run, but if things can't be reconciled divorce may be the only option.  It's not fair to you to have to endure all of this if she is intent on cheating on you.  Do the marriage conciler then go from there.