What to do about a bad team captain?

Question

SO one of the girls on my volleyball team drives everyone crazy. She thinks she is a leader, but no one respects her. She is one of those crazy annoying girls on the court, which makes everyone mad. She is our coach's favorite player so we can't talk to her about it. And we can't talk to this girl about it either because she is so immature and sensitive that whatever we say will make her mad. (I've tried and it was bad...) Next year is our senior year and we will both be captains. What do I do about her? I am not going to let her ruin my and every other girl's last year to play volleyball.

Answer 1

You are going to have to talk to teammates about her, and just ignore her. I've had insanely bad captains, and all you can do is just focus on being a good captain, and try your hardest. And if you can, talk to your teammates and tell them to ignore her, or pay attention to you and not to her.

So just ignore her, and focus on having fun and being a great captain. Good Luck!

Answer 2

sack her

Answer 3

Definitely get together and talk to the coach. A team cannot give their best if they are led by a bad team captain. That spot is suppose to be earned not given because she is the coach's favorite player. Don't be scared to approach your coach about this matter!

Answer 4

I was going to say that everyone needs to get together and go to the coach but I guess that a no, no... One thing you can do as a co-captain is insure everyone else that you have their back, they will need to see that from you. If they don't see it, it will not be good for the team and moral can go down and then attitudes will become worse and that leads to people wanting to leave the team. It is going to come down to you as a captain.

Answer 5

Ohhh I've been in the same situation. We tried to solve the "problem" and it didn't work out either.

Basically just have the whole team ignore her and she will shut up. I mean if she's sensitive to whatever you guys say, then you might as well not talk to her. And when she talks just make the conversation short by saying like ohhhh.

And since it's you and her being captains. Just be the captain that every gets along with and pretend the other one just doesn't exist.

I'm not sure if it will work for you guys, but it worked for us

Answer 6

Even though the other captain is a favorite of the coach, I would still suggest that you talk with the coach.  You are the other captain.  Calmly and politely.  Do not force any issues or make any demands.  Just point out some of your points.  Tell the coach that the other captain is trying to hard to lead.  Leaders do not TRY to lead.  They just lead.  You can point out that the other captain is very vocal and distracting.

One other option is to try to talk with the other captain AWAY from the volleyball court.  Again, talk calmly and just point out that she tries to hard.  If she is as sensitive as you say, just suggest that the two of you work together more as the co-captains.  Discuss your strategy for the upcoming season.  

One other option is to become more vocal and encouraging.  Do not worry about the other captain.  If you get more vocal and encouraging, you will just lead the team and they will not pay attention to the other captain.  

Good luck.  None of these suggestions are easy.

Answer 7

Say, "OK,(name).  You are the best"  in a very sacastic tone

Answer 8

eventually someone on your team will get pushed to far and say something back to her and when that happens make sure your whole team gets involved and tell her what shes doing also and tell her to lighten up

Answer 9

i say just talk to her an set the record straight. i mean, it seems like she's pulling down the team. as a captain, i would do what's best for my team. and if you have to tell her straight up to STOP, do it. she might get all down and stuff and ur coach might get mad, but this also allows you to come together and pull through as a team. Come out as a new team, regardless of that chick. use this as an opportunity to become a stronger team.

hope i helped!!

Answer 10

It sounds a bit wierd but you will have to "ignore" her a bit and let her be the way she is...if you are going to be co-captians with her next year then it should be okay becuase your opinion matters just as much as hers because you are co-captains, no matter how much the coach likes her

And it sounds like you already have the respect of the rest of the team so you need to make sure that you keep everyone together...if you confront her or the coach it will only create division in the team and your team play will suffer...so you need to take initiative and keep the team together even if the other girl is being a jerk

It is a hard situation i know (i kinda had a situation like this but it wasn't with the captain)...and really I don't like the idea of the coach picking the captain(s)...for my years of high school and my first year of university (and the next few years) the coach has the team vote on the captian, that way there is no division of the team

hope this gets solved so you can enjoy your last year of volleyball in high school...good luck

Answer 11

Listen, you can talk to her away from the volleyball court, or talk to the coach.

You have to be smart and try to speak without bias. You can not imply negative things about her when you are talking. If you word things correctly, you can reason with even the most difficult people.

The advice about trying to work on team strategy with her is good. Try to let her lead when it is ok, and then having given in some, you will be able to put the foot down in other areas.