What to do about a daughter who has a learning disability, and wants nothing but to be a rock star?

Question

She is very naive and unrealistic about the world, as well as very stubborn. Has tried a year of college and didn't apply herself, did not do well?

Answer 1

At first when I read this I thought this was going to be a bout a kid in middle school or elementary school or something.  I'm a little surprised at the immaturity of an adult in college though! Sounds to me like she's unmotivated and only wants to learn things that she likes. Unfortunately in college or life you can't always do what you like and have to tackle what is in front of you at that moment.

Also if she hasn't been training with a good vocal coach that works with high caliber ability students and hasn't been performing, with a manager/agent, and hasn't been "discovered" by this point in her life, chances are she won't be.  You don't just walk into a record company and say "I'm a rock star" and have them believe you and make you rich after all. It takes YEARS of ground work and hard work at that... before and AFTER you get "discovered".

If she's still living at home you need to tell her flat out if she isn't going to go to school at the moment then she needs to get a job, keep the job, and pay rent.  Let her know she can rent from you at home for a year. The catch will be she will work with you during that time to map a plan for her life and start setting manageable goals towards that plan while doing so- and rock star is NOT one of the goals.  After a year have her go to a community college and get her act together and grades up and then she can transfer to a university after a year there.

If she doesn't want to comply, tell her she is on her own and that you are not supporting her any longer and let her fall on her own face due to her unmotivation and lack of responsibility. When she does and realizes she can't keep living this dream world she'll be more ready to listen.  At her age you can't coddle them and fix it. They have to learn to be on their own two feet and be responsible.  Right now it doesn't sound as if she's doing either.

Answer 2

help her acheive her dreams, be supportive, tell her it is a tough gig to make but always support her, and make sure is doing something constructive, if school is hard, then at least a job.

Answer 3

Support her ideas and guide her. She'll eventually see it is not all it's cut out to be OR maybe she will be the next rock star.

Answer 4

Show your love to your daughter.

Support her in all undertakings that will make her happy.

Guide her well so she will not falter.

Let her be a rock star.

Answer 5

tell her that the money is in song writing and getting a degree in english wouldnt be a bad idea,