What to do about a friend who insist on obsessing over her ex?

Question

I have a very good friend who's man (Not married) left her about 9 months ago, he told her to move on with her life, he has been with several different women since he left, and it is really tearing her apart, she does nothing but obsess over the reasons why she thinks he left.

Now she is trying to figure out how deep his relationship is with his latest women. She is getting therapy, but not sure that's working. I listen to her talk about him all the time. And I am at the end of my rope with this, because no matter what you say, The outcome always has something to do with him. We can not have a decent women to women conversation without her bringing him up, something he did or said, or just a memory. In her mind they were married, but not legally.

I know she Loves him, that's why I have been sympathetic to her need to discuss him, but enough is enough. It's not like she didn't already know that he was a cheater and a drug user. He is also much younger than her, and just not ready for a big family, he is still sowing his oats..Any way...Just wanted some feed back.

Answer 1

You almost hit a point where you have to be blunt with her.  And if thats the case shell probably take it offensively, but down the road when shes not so twisted up in this guy shell realize that you were doing it for her best interest.

Sometimes when people are so ridiculously stubborn and stuck in their thoughts and ways, tiptoeing through the tulips is an endless cycle that leaves the friend fed up and the poor girl even more tied down to her thoughts than ever before.

Answer 2

Only time will fix it keep her busy thou and be there for her she needs to get it out of her chst