What to do about a stalker ex? ?

Question

I worked with this guy for years and then we became freinds.I was there for him during his horrible break up and overtime we became really close. Well eventually he begin to pursue me further and after much debate I decided to go out with him. His whole life is a mess and it was a daily struggle to keep up with his moods. Well one day I found out he cheated on me and then shortly after we broke up. I still loved him but all of a sudden now he was with a new girl(not the same one he cheated on me with) and he made up so many excuses to why we didnt work out. But of course he wanted to remain friends.

Well to me the friendship was screwed. Over the next few years we talked once every few months or so. I was still bitter and he seemed happy with his new wifey. I phsyically moved on and got another bf whom i have been with for a long time now and just recently have I been able to finally let go of that past relationship. Well one day he calls to say he's going to tell me the truth on everything he could never tell me. Then he starts spilling his guts about how he never stopped loving me and how he realizes he made a mistake and how he was scared at the time and blah blah. I waited for years to hear these words that suddenly I didn't care to hear at all. It no longer mattered to me. Well now he won't stop calling me or texting me. He lives with his fiance and she'd kill him if she knew he contacts me so much. I'm afraid that if i dont answer his calls he will start coming back and that will be totally awkward. I guess I would be ok being friends with him again but im afraid of his woman starting drama or my bf getting really upset at me. Not to mention so much has changed now. I haven't seen him in yeras and don't want to anymore. I know a part of me will always love him, but he broke my heart and it just now mended. What should I do?

Answer 1

I DON'T KNOW WHY PEOPLE DON'T JUST SAY WHAT ON THEIR MIND AND GET IT OVER WITH!!!!!

TELL THAT B A S T E R  THAT IT IS OVER AND YOU NEVER WANT TO TALK TO HIM AGAIN --YOU CAN NOT BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT---TELL YOUR NEW BOYFRIEND WHAT THE h**l IS GOING ON SO IF HE POP UP SOME WHERE HE WILL ALREADY KNOW THE WHOLE STORY-- LET THAT PUNK A** KNOW THAT HE SHOULD OF KEPT YOU WHEN HE HAD YOU BUT HE CHOOSE ANOTHER WISE NOW HE HAS TO DEAL WITH IT---IF THAT DON'T WORK A GOOD A** WHOOPING SHOULD DO THE TRICK!!!!!

Answer 2

Just don't answer his calls.   He just wants someone to listen to his problems and obviously his fiance won't.   Don't bother being friends with him.   You are flattered cos he needs you, and you think he needs you for who you are but he needs you because he can count on you being A GOOD LISTENER.     Anyone else who is A GOOD LISTENER would satisfy him.

Answer 3

That kind of thing is a lot more serious that it seems right now, and it can get out of control VERY quickly. He doesn't want to be just friends and he won't be satisfied with that. First, you need to tell him - with witnesses, or have some way of recording it (like a saved e-mail maybe, or even a registered letter) that you want him to stop contacting you. If he keeps it up, YOU keep it up. Never, ever give him the impression that you will crack and talk to him. If he just won't stop, threaten to call the police. Tell everyone you know about his behaviour so that they know not to tell him any information about you. Hopefully he will stop eventually, but if he doesn't get definetely need to get law enforcement involved.  

Answer 4

ANSWER.......RESTRAINING ORDER

Answer 5

try talking to him, tell him you think he's taking things too far and that he really hurt you when he cheated on you and that you've moved and are happier now. don't let him control you or risk your new relationship, its not worth it.

Answer 6

HEY HERE AN IDEA get a restraining order

Answer 7

DING DING DING!!! RESTRRAINING ORDER!