What to do about an 11 month old? Kinda long...need answer?

Question

Alright so my neice is 11 months old today actually and she has a very bad attitude. When you say no.

**Take today for instance we were at walmart and she grabbed a razor off the shelf and I told her no and put it back. Well that set her off, she started clawing my hand (like she does when shes pissed). I first tell her Madisyn No No. She does it again. I say the same thing and smack her hand. She looks up at me and tries to claw my chest. This time I smack her hand again and tell her No, and tell my sister. She tries to claw my sister and gets even madder....long story short it took like 3 minto get her to stop** Its no

This is an ongoing daily problem when u tell her no. My sister said she wants her to know that not only mommy and daddy can say no and yell at her. So Im tring to find someway to solve this....I hate to yell at her. Shes soo little and cute I dont know. So my question is what can we do????? That when you tell her no doesnt result in a 5 min clawing match??Thanks!!

Answer 1

Well I think she's starting to test limits. I suggest since she's so young, to take away -in this case the razor- and say -"ah-ah" no yucky or whatever and maybe redirect her attention to something else! a toy a cellphone! Do not smack her hand or whe will learn to do it, and wont understand why she Cant smack ppl and you CAN! no yelling she's too young to understand.

However she needs to understand that NO is a part of life. And so does your sister. She needs to be able to say no at times. You can say other thing too like" Let's not play with that" how about this or the other? If she cries, and has a fit, just ignore it, as she's so young, pick her up and take her Away from the situation. If she claws you as you say, hold her facing outwards, and show her sthg else. Redirect usually works. But your sister needs to find a way to set limits, if she doesnt like the Word NO, there are many other phrases to use, but still set the limit. Like "feet on the floor" instead "Dont put your feet on the table!" She needs to find the ones she likes.But must use them. Hope it helps! Good luck!

Answer 2

Ok, first off don't smack her hand. That teaches her that it is ok to smack. Just take her hand and hold it and say no. Then instead of sitting there and keeping saying no, move along. If you can distract her with an item you have already got and let her hold it and see it while you continue shopping. The main thing to remember for this age is: distraction. You really should only distract the child from what you want to be stopped. The whole "clawing" is because you hit her hand first, don't do that, just hold her hand, look at her and say no, then continue shopping. No need to smack her hand. You can also say things like, " We don't do that" or something of that matter.

Answer 3

smacking her is only going to encourage her to use physical responses herself.

Answer 4

With my niece I will say 'eh-eh' (no is so overused sometimes), give her a chance to correct herself and if not I will correct the problem for her (take away razor in your example). If she were to throw a fit, I am not going to argue with a child, I simply ignore her and back away until she calms down.

There is usually never any hitting or biting on her part but she has tried this once and I will react immediately, tell her no and leave until she calms down. She doesn't get to touch or get near me until she is calm.