What to do about bedtime

Question

My daughter is 10 years old and i have a daughter that is 8 years old..My 10 year old will not go to bed when it is bed time she crys and screams she says she is Scared so i go sleep in her room with her cuz she just won't go to bed but she will go to bed if i'm there with her. and if i don't go and there she wakes her 8 year sister up then there is more crying her and her sister crying cuz my 8 year old got wake up..I just don't know what to do... what to do??

Answer 1

thats how i was its cause i would hear funny noices and i was  scared of the dark!! Get a noice maker for her leave her door open LET HER SLEEP WITH THE LIGHT ON!! Lay with her and read her a story!! Please oh i am begging you to not just let her cry COMFORT HER!!

Answer 2

just let her cry herself to sleep  

Answer 3

There has to be a bigger issue here because of her age. First how long has this occured? Has there been any new situations that may be upsetting her? ( Moving, new people in life, e.t.c) Have a talk with her earlier in the day one on one and ask if anything is bothering her. Is this is a new behavior I would def look into it. Children express thier emotions in a lot of ways. If you are still concerned I would seek professional help just in cause something major is happening.

Answer 4

Wait a minute..they are 8 and 10? That is WAAAAY too old to have temper tantrums. When she crys like that tell her if she doesn't stop you are putting her in the garage or another room to sleep when its even darker. It sounds like they share a room so tell her that if her crying wakes up her little sister she is grounded for a day.

I have a 10 year old and if she did that, it'd be no computer for a week

Answer 5

When my daughter started sharing a room recently, we ran into this problem.  When it is her bedtime, if she says she is scared, to avoid waking the younger children, I let her listen to relaxing music on my ipod or I let her stay up in a quiet boring room to read until she is very drowsy (the living room or my bedroom).  I wish I knew a better answer, but at least she is winding down without me staying there and not waking up the younger siblings.

Answer 6

Try getting her a radio, and a night light. We also have incorporated "reading time" in which I read them a little of a book each night before they go to sleep. I helps give them something to think about before they head to bed. If these dont help, i would take her to a dr.

Answer 7

So you are enabling your 10 year olds behavior.  Let her scream and cry.  Put her sister in a different bedroom.  Your 10 year old needs to learn how to sleep in her own room by herself.  What is going to happen when she goes off to college?  Are you going to go with her so you can lay down with her to get her to sleep?

Answer 8

let her cry & scream till she falls asleep -she is a manipulator.  give her lotsa love & a night light for her room.  get rid of the TV and read books before bed.