What to do about borrowed item returned damaged... Pic included.. : ) I lent this evening top to my Sister in

Question

I lent this evening top to my Sister in law. She had it for ages and finally returned it after months, but she returned it clearly unwashed and stained with who knows what on the breast. I have not yet tried to wash it, i am really annoyed at her.. what can i do without being to confrontational to make it known to her that she has ruined the top and should feel ashamed of herself for returning it to me in this condition! And she actually had the nerve to ask to borrow it again!!!!

I am really fuming about it! What would you do??

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Answer 1

She asked to borrow it again? Oh my what nerve some people have.Here's what you do:

Ask to borrow her car and when you return it to her, tell her you got a little scratch on it, but you're sure she won't mind.  (You didn't but she won't know)  When she throw a fit and insists you pay to have it fixed; you reveal that there's no damage to the car, but there is to your top and you'll be expecting her to pay to have it fixed...either dry cleaned or replaced. You'll have her right where you want her.

Answer 2

Sounds more like it belongs on Peoples court not yahoo answers

Answer 3

You should ask her to get it dry cleaned, since she's the one who ruined it. If she doesn't want to do that then the next time she wants to borrow it, tell her you'll sell it to her.

Answer 4

I would ask her what she did to my top, because it doesn't look the same as when I lent it to her. You can let her borrow it, but tell her that the stain better be gone the next time you get it back, and if not, she owes you a new top. You're right, it is pretty, and that was really disrespectful of her to return it in that condition without even an offer of reimbursement.

Answer 5

Well she is family -

There is more here than a damaged top.

There could be trouble for everyone if you over-react, so think about what you might want to say and do beforehand.

Harsh words do not help in the area of peace within the family.

When she tries to borrow it again - just say no.

She will get the hint.

Answer 6

Tell her that you won't lend her things again. Why? 'coz she don't know how to take care of borrowed things! Why can't you be confrontational, if it's really her fault? She should be sensitive enough!

Answer 7

Scrub the toilet with her toothbrush. Tell her at lunch. just kidding, no really, tell her at lunch

Answer 8

Launder it and if it comes out OK, drop the issue.  I don't know if she's your brother's wife or your husband's sister, but either way you don't want a silly blouse to come between her and whichever man in your life she's connected to.  That will hurt your own relationship with him too.  

If it's indeed ruined give it to her so she won't have to borrow it anymore.  If she ever wants to borrow anything in the future, politely decline.

Answer 9

Take it to the drycleaner, to see if they can get the stain out.  If they can, I would ask the friend to pay for the dry cleaning.  Otherwise, I would ask her to replace it, and she can have the one she damaged- she wouldn't have to borrow it ever again!

Answer 10

Maybe she is hoping that you got it cleaned up for her and she wants to use it again.

I would calmly tell her that she kept it too long, returned it unwashed and stained and that you can't loan her your clothes anymore.

Answer 11

She asked to borrow it again right?  Show her the shirt and say "Umm I don't think you'll want to borrow it now its got a big stain on it see."  "Do you remember what dripped on it so I know if I can wash it myself or if I have to take it to the drycleaners?"  

Hopefully she will feel bad and get the hint and pay you for the dry cleaning bill.  If she doesn't apologize or pay for the dry cleaning then she is a selfish brat and doesn't deserve to borrow any of your stuff.  That looks like a very nice shirt. ARRRGGHHHHH.........jerk :)

Answer 12

ask her if she can pay to have it dry cleaned, then if the stain is still there ask her if she can buy you a new one.

Answer 13

let her know how you feel then show her your question here in answers and the answers that you get.  that'll learn her.

Answer 14

take pictures of the stain and print billions of copies and paste it all over her room...

Answer 15

shoot her an email asking about the stains and if she had it cleaned. When she replies back ask her if she wouldnt mind replacing it since the stains dont come out

Answer 16

Take it to the dry cleaners; they may be able to get that stain out.  But it just depends on your personal style.  I am non confrontational, so I would just never let her borrow anything again, but you may just want to tell her, "You returned my top with a large stain on it, and I've had to pay X amount of money to have it dry cleaned.  I just thought you should know."

Answer 17

well i would probably kill her if i were you... right but jokes aside, its only a top come on!! you could buy a similar fabric and get it tailored. Or try washing the stain out, ask her what this stain is. no need to panic. :) just tell her that there is a stain on it, and how you should get it off. It will give you an excuse to splash out and buy new evening tops!! And do take my advice, never ever lend clothes to anyone. :)

Answer 18

I would just take it to the cleaner and see if they can get it out. If they can then its a done deal. If she asked to borrow something again I would bring up her past history with borrowing clothes. Not returned in a timely manner and not cleaned and not respected for that matter. Tell her you take too much pride in the items you have spent your money on and don't feel like she respects that. She will have to find someone else to lend her something this time. Don't back down or she will run over you---over and over again.