What to do about child custody ??

Question

My step-son(soon to b 12) wants to come & live with us for few months to give it a try. He spoke w/mom but she refuses & manipulates him on not to come & live w/ us. At what age a child can decide to live with the non-custodial parent? What to do in this situation? My hubby wanted to do this peacefully, but the mother told the boy if she comes & live w/ us ,she will not love him anymore & will not see him again. They boy of course is now sad, plus he needs lots of love & attention he is not getting from the mother. We talk him to because he wet his bed & find out he is scared at nigths,plus he told us that he spends most of the day alone at home on vacation & on school time he sends about 4 hrs alone,plus other things my hubby find out by talking to him,he needs more love & care so my hubby told his mom & she refuses to take him & see an specialist & see why he wets the bed he didn't told my hubby why, the problem is he lives 14hrs away, if not my hubby will take care of this sooner. What can it be done if she refuses to accept for the boy to come and live with us?? We want to help him and see what the problem is!! Any advices will be helpful!!

Answer 1

His mother is using your step son to get at  the two of you.

It all depends on where you live that determines the age of accountability.   Best to check with a family law attorney

Answer 2

first off i understand we deal with simular things with my stepson but the mother motive is over 650.00 dollars a month in child support she wants to keep. we have offered to let her keep the money each month as long as she wants just to let him live with us. pay to have his son how sad. but sorry. in illinois there is no age a child can decide. what you need to do is file a motion with the corts for a modification on the parenting agreement. as far as what your son says to you or his dad that is total hearsay. take him to someone in your area to talk to when he is there. a trained person that deals with children. dont presure him into anything leve the talking to the pro. the more you hear the madder you will get but a judge dont always care. once again it is hearsay. if you go there to pick him up you might want to talk to neibors if you see them to see what they see. we did that and we found out alot of information. see if there is any cases files with child and family services also. that helps build a case if there has been outside complaints bareing the same things he is saying. take this all to court. it is hard work but it can be done. now take it to the judge dont act like a fool in frount of him he will talk to th boy and make a choice in the best intrest of the child. they are there for the child bot the parents.  you have a road a head of you but god willing you can do it.

Answer 3

Not sure where you are but here in australia the age where a child can make the choice of where they want to live is 12 years