What to do about childrens grades?

Question

My boys have decided to give up on school and they are not doing well at all. I have taken everything away from them and they still don't seem to care about there grades. Any help would be appreciated. Mom out of her mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I don't do anything.  My kid's schoolwork is THEIR responsibiity.  If they fail they fail, the world isn't going to come to an end.  They will simply have to redo the grade they are in and be behind their friends and peers.  Taking there things from them at this point isn't going to have any effect because they probably did nothing to EARN those things to begin with.  So of course they don't care, they didn't have to do anything for them, they were just handed them 'things'

Answer 2

Sounds like it might be time to talk to the teachers. The teachers can give you incite on what is going on at school that may have them distracted.  They may be able to help you with what works for them. The schools usually offer assistance in the form of admin. staff to help you too!

I know that taking things away is effective, how about a reward system in it's place? You didn't mention the ages of yoru boys but this can be fairly effective. Mom, Take a deep breath you are going to be okay and so are they. Perhaps the incentive of a summer break (Summer school here we come). This may be enough to get them going. Offer them rewards for helping each other.  

Sit down with them one at a time and do homework with them. I know this is time consuming but it can also be very rewarding for you both. You have time with them alone and they are getting attention. Praise them when they get it right. Hey 1 out of 3 answers correct is a great start. Then go through the tougher problems with them. Good luck!

Answer 3

is something going on at school that you don't know about? have you talked to the teachers? i think its odd that both have given up. try coming up with ways to make it fun, find rewards for them to do on weekends that they can get excited for. is it just that they don't want to do it, like their bored, or is it something other than that? cuz if it is, maybe you need to get them psychologically tested, who knows, doesn't mean there is something wrong with them but someone could help you figure out a way to get their head in the game. i never liked school either, i never gave it my all, granted i can't say even now if i went back if i would, but i might have tried a little bit more to get stuff done and turned in on time. Maybe if i had maybe i would have known what i wanted to do or sparked my interest in other things. good luck.

Answer 4

If more than one of your children is having a problem in school, maybe it's the school itself!   You might want to talk to the parents of some of their classmates, to find out whether any other children in their classes are also having problems.  It's at least worth looking into this.

Answer 5

some times you just have to ignore the fact that they are doing bad, tell them you don't want to pressure them. just simply say no when they ask for things like "going out". but don't tell them in advance that they can't. if they ask why say, " i think you know why" and end the conversation there.

Answer 6

How old are your boy's? No, don't give up and let it go like one person posted... "people these day's are terrified of the future", Ah, Ya! We want our children to do well in school, their the ones who's taking care of us in the future.

Speak to the school councilor. You need to stick with a plan other wise they will think it's OK by you that you don't care what grades they bring home. Good for you on wanting help. I would do the same.

Answer 7

I have an 8 and 13 year old and I am a single parent who dealt  with bad grades a couple of years ago. I encouraged them along with discipline as much as I could. I visited the school as much as I could when I was away from the office. I emailed the teachers and went to all the parent conferences. Their dad also backs me up in everything I do when I feel they may not take me serious. I don't know if you have that help but family can also have an impact on how they feel about school. Try to get them educational books and games and even hire a tutor if they have weak areas that need improvement. If all else fails seek an outside source such as counseling to see if they can uncover anything different. Good luck and don't give up...they will be okay. Be strong!

Answer 8

Oh just let it go people 2day r so terrified of the future they take away from the present! Make them talk 2 u and tell u what their problem is.

Answer 9

try to tell them that you are proud of what they did, this may boosed kyour child's self esteem and have them wanting to learn agian - hope this helps