What to do about curious husband?

Question

My husband is always asking me about s*x with my ex boyfriend. He's always wanting me to compare different parts of it against s*x with him. I've tried being honest with him but all it does is depresses him. How do you compare three times with your ex against thousands of times with your husband? How do you do it and not let your husband know how much you enjoyed it with your ex?

Answer 1

You tell him it's all gone and forgotten and you want to leave it behind you. Tell him he is the one and only and s*x is the best ever. Leave it at that. Giving into his constant questioning is not helping your relationship at all. In short, hubby needs to grow up.

Answer 2

2 things...

tell hubby,he's the best you've ever had and that's all you want to say and all that matters...he's your HUBBY!...leave it at that

OR

tell him the Ex was so small an ant couldn't do much with it, he had no PIZAZZ OR romance or fun in him!!

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Answer 3

This is when it's best to lie.  No, seriously, lie like a rug.  Tell every good lie to make your husband feel better that you can think of.  Put your ex down even though you don't mean it in your heart.  Oh, but one caution; when you're telling your husband about what's bad about your ex, do NOT say anything resembling, "His p***s hurt because it was too big."  Avoid that one!

Answer 4

I would simply tell him what's in the past is just that--the past.  You don't want to think about anything but your future.  Let him know you love him and only him.

Answer 5

Refuse to talk about it.  Whenever it comes up change the subject, eventually he will stop asking, but only if you refuse to tell him anything.

Answer 6

If I were you, next time your husband starts pressuring you to talk about your ex, I'd ask him why it matters.  Flat out say to him "Honey, I married you.  Who cares if he were the best I'd ever had in bed, or so horrible I wanted to vomit?  I chose you, I chose to marry you, and I love you with every fiber of my soul.  THAT'S what's important."  

Then, don't answer.  Why should the two of you be focusing on your ex, anyway?  Actually, tell him that too.  Say you should be focusing on the two of you, not people in your past.

Good luck!

Answer 7

This is a bad road he is going down.  Clearly he is having some kind of issue about something; it could be his own insecurity, jealousy toward you, or his way of trying to mask his infidelity.

The first two are tied together; on some level perhaps he "thinks" you should have been a virgin or something.