What to do about my dad!?

Question

My dad has gotten on my last nerve. He consistently argues about small things and it just highly unpleasant to be around. He works about 3 hours away and I only see him on weekends and even then, he is extremely argumentative. Today he came home and not only didn't he say hello, he complained that the house was "too cold" and that he didn't like the fact we left the newspaper outside. I'm 18 and am contemplating moving out. I have an appointment to see some off campus apartments and even if I need to take out a loan, its better than me staying at home with him. He said "we agreed you would stay home a year" but "we" didn't, he did. How can I get him to quit being rude to me and my mom?

Answer 1

Tell your mom to have s*x with him more often.

Answer 2

Sounds like Dad doesn't want to be there.  You can't get him to do anything, but you have to make up your mind if you can afford to move out, while going to college. You could find somewhere to go on the weekends when your Dad is home, and then not see him. Your Mom will take care of herself.

Answer 3

Perhaps working so much and so far away has him extremely stressed.  Why don't you try talking to him like the mature 18 year old you sound like.  "Dad, you seem really stressed lately.  I want you to know that mom and I love you and if you need to talk, we will be here."  Basically, be up front with your dad, but in a non-threatening way.  Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

move out

Answer 5

hmm, I just have a feeling.. that he's having a really hard day at work.. or too much thing is on his mind. Talk to your mom. Ask her for a conerence with your dad. I guess that's the only solution. You cant' yell at him. It will just makes him more mad than usual.

Answer 6

Your dad is probably under a lot of stress with his job so that can cause him to be temperamental. Another possibility is maybe your dad has another life (girlfriend). A lot of times when spouses cheat, they become withdrawn and rude to their family. I hope this isn't the case but it is a possibility. You're 18, you're grown, move out if you want to. Just make sure you're there for your mom if she needs you

Answer 7

If he's being rude to both you and your mom, talk to her and see what she suggests.  If she has none, consider talking to your dad about his behavior.  Let him know you are considering moving out.  Ask him whats on his mind, if anything.  I'm sure the conversation will go unpleasant, but remind him that you are an adult now.  Tell him, his advice is always considered and thought over, but only you can make the finally decision in your life now.  Say to him, you'd love to stay home, but you can't tolerate the negativity from him.  He will have to change his attitude so you will be able to study in a sane environment.

If you have already decided to move out, make sure you have budgeted out all costs of living.  You may want to consider a roommate...but sometimes, even those don't work out.

Answer 8

just tell him to go watch pokemon

Answer 9

"Spoiled Kid"........You should be happy You even have a father to B*tch at you. How many people out there wish they had a father. But if its really that awfull, move out. Stand on your own 2 feet!

Answer 10

Honestly, I'd either give him a taste of his own medicine and be extremely rude and argumentative back (not exactly advisable) or just stay out of his way altogether. You could also try to find out what his problem is, because people don't just come home and act like jerks for no reason. I'd bet it's just stress. Like problems at work, most likely. Or just sitting in a car for three hours to come home would be enough to tick me off. The best idea would be to probably stay out of his way until he cools off.

Answer 11

He sounds like he's got a lot on his mind, with work and you being in school and growing up, and everyone clashes with their parents at some point. If you think you need to get out on your own to save the relationship with your father, then do it- you're old enough. But don't move out on account of being sniped at for leaving a newspaper on the lawn. Try sitting down with him one night after work, after he's had a chance to unwind a little and tell him you feel a little stressed from him always griping. Tell him you want to be friends and that you don't really know what he wants you to do so that you can be. Let him know gently that his behavior has become somewhat unbearable and that you want peace in the house- come to an agreement on how both of you can contribute to solving the quarrels. Good luck!

Answer 12

Take him out to dinner (so he can't yell, and the conversation will not get out of hand) tell him you love him and want to know what is going on. Try not to use phrases like "You have been really argumentative." Try saying things like "I am concerned that I can't find common ground with you lately." If you feel your mom needs to be in on it, bring her. But if she can't talk to him about it with you give them their own space. He may be stressed out that his little girl is growing up.  

Answer 13

You are immature, sorry. You would talk to your mom every day as a friend. If you can't talk to anyone, you are the "green".

But, it's your life. Move out if you want.