What to do about my leaning shoulders and mom?

Question

I've known I have scoliosis for about 2-3 years now. I have had to wear the brace for a year, and it's also been a year that I was able to leave it off.

However, the thing is that my shoulders still "slant", so sometimes I guess I am leaning a bit to the (left side). I never notice this, but it seems my mom always does.

Everytime she sees me, I believe she is looking at my "posture", and then telling me that my shoulders are crooked and asks me to fix it. I realize that they may not be level, but I don't exactly see how I can fix. She states that I have "grown use to" leaning them, and I have to learn to position them otherwise. I have tried, but again, this is something that I "unconsciously" do, so I never notice, never remember to fix. (She also wants me to move my shoulder so that the blade that sticks out becomes less unnoticeable.)

The doctors have once said that there isn't a way to hide my shoulder blades, and as for that and the unlevel shoulders...I really don't mind it. I have never noticed it in my own reflections and other people have never noticed either, or at least, they don't say anything about it.

So what should I do about my shoulders? Or if the shoulders aren't the main problem, what should I do about my mom's continous remarks?

Answer 1

I have flatback syndrome.  It forces me to bend forward when I'm standing and walking.  My wife frequently tells me to stand up straight.  I can't, though, and I tell her that this is the way I am now.  She understands the problems that I have with my back.

Shoulders that aren't level is one symptom of scoliosis.  If scoliosis is truly the reason for the state of your shoulders then there's nothing you can do outside of surgery that will fix them (permanently).

Perhaps your mom can see your x-rays and see the shape that you've grown.  You'll then be able to say to her that you're built that way now.

Answer 2

try talking to her and tell her how you feal

Answer 3

take your Mom to a counsellor ,