What to do about my mom disaproving of my life?

Question

I'm 26 and my boyfriend and I live together. We've been living together for 6 months now and i just told my mom. My mom is super religious and disaprove of me living with someone. She wants him and i to get married or else she will stop talking to me. The thing is, I love my bf but i don't want to get married. I've never wanted to get married. When my mom found out we were dating she already planned MY marriage for next year and started inviting people and letting them know about the "marriage". What do i do? Should i just live my life the way I want to live it or should i just get married since I love him. I'm sure i will get married some day but not for another 3-4 years. I can't even imagine myself getting married.

Answer 1

You have to live your own life, with or without your mother's approval.  She can't allow her religious beliefs push you towards something (marriage) that you aren't ready for.  If I were in your situation I'd marry on my timetable- your mother may very well withdraw her ultimatum if she realizes you are a grown woman who can, and will make her own decisions.  

Answer 2

Wow our parents think alike. I say that they've lived their lives and now it's our turn. I would NEVER get married just to live with someone! That's insane.

Answer 3

This scenario sounds so much like me and my girlfriend's situation.  I try to tell her to live her life to the fullest because we only live once and your mom can't live or die for you.  You have to understand that people always have opinions for others.  Is your mom single?  Did she have bad relationship experiences?  Are you her only daughter?  These are important factors when MOTHERS give advice because they feel their daughters will repeat their mistakes.  It's 2008 young lady don't get caught up in the Matrix.  Tell your mother that you will get married when you want to.  Also make your man happy.  Even Jesus Christ didn't listen to his own mother and he wasn't 26 when he decided not to take her advice anymore.  Enjoy your boyfriend... let marriage come if it come.  He may not want to get married yet either.

Answer 4

sounds like your mom wants whats best for you...however she thinks getting married is the best thing through HER eyes. you need to sit her down and tell her that you love her but you arent ready to get married and rushing into marriage could hurt your relationship with your boyfriend. tell her youre not doing this to spite her but you just need more time. she'll listen to you, your mom loves you. she just needs to be reassured that you know what youre doing. good luck!