What to do about teenage unplanned pregnancy please?

Question

Well she's 18 going to her second year of college(she graduated HS early)she's at this time 6 almost 7 monthes pregnant and really confused she wants to keep her baby but doesn't know if she can handle being a single mother.The college she's going to has a day care so if she keeps the baby she has a way to go to school and be a mother.Right now she has a stable job and apartment with two roommates but she's worried about her family and the babies father.Her family hasn't spoken to her since they found out they say she's ruining her life and how is she going to raise a baby on her own,she's starting to think about adoption but i know she doesn't want that becasue she loves her baby even though they haven't met yet.Her parents will turn their back on her because they did the same thing to her older sister and haven't spoken to her in 8 years.I think she's brave but everyone else turns their noses up and gives her harsh looks and mean words.

Answer 1

she's old enough to be responsible for a baby and going to school. but she needs to think long and hard before it's born what she is going to do. i had my son when i was 17, and i'm going to start my senior of college this fall. there's no father in the picture and the two of us are as happy as can be, my guy really loves my son and my son has really taken to my guy, which is weird cuz he doesn't warm up too well to guys i date, but i guess since we aren't dating it works differntly.

Answer 2

HERES THE DEAL!

Her parents are dumb @$$es. If they were good parents they would get off their lazy behinds and give their child a hug and say they appreciate her honesty. Tell her she should consider the smart thing to do by looking at adoption, and if it truely breaks her heart to see her baby with someone else. Also, just because her parents are idiots doesnt mean she has to follow them. Then tell her she should also talk to her older sis, because there is NO ONE that will understand it more than she will. Those who give her harsh words, she just can stick up the middle finger. I know things like this because my sis had a baby in her teen years, and we were at the pizza place and the ladies there started yelling things out that were unnecessary and my mom got up and told them to shut up and talked to the manager. If you stand up for what you believe in, you sometimes (note SOMETIMES) win if you're dedicated. If you care about her and her sister were with her, that should b enough for her to get through it.

YOu're a good friend.

Answer 3

Your friend will have a long, hard road ahead of her if she plans to raise the child alone.  She will not have help from her family or the father of the baby.  She will be able to get child support from the father but that won't be much help when the child is up all night crying because it's sick and your friend has school and/or work the next day.  

It may be brave to raise the child alone but it may even be more brave to give the child up to a couple who's been trying to have a baby for many years.  I would strongly urge your friend to consider adoption.

Answer 4

First off, she should visit a women's legal office to ensure that "Dad" lives up to his obligations.....He can't just walk.  Then she should consider her options.  Adoption or keeping the child.  There are good arguments for both.  Perhaps the college can help in this decision.  Too bad about her family, especially if she decides to keep the child.  Being cut off from grandchildren is no fun.  Seeing a good reputable adoption agency, perhaps one that has "open adoptions" where she can continue to play some role in her child's life would be worth considering.

Answer 5

i think she should go for it. a termination at this stage could be harmful to the mother and may cause permanent damage which will then cause problems in falling preganat later in life. if she knows that her family and the childs father won't be around to help then there are no real surprises for her in that area. the fact that her school has a day care facility is fantastic. if she plans to breastfeed, she could go there in between classes to feed and bond with her child or express so th bubs gets mums good nourishment. if she cant feed the bubs, i used heinz baby formula for all 6 of my kids and it was the best one i tried [and i tried a few] .

she needs to join a mums group through her local maternal and child health centre and they can also provide her with a number of useful resources.

i get dirty looks from people when i go out with my numerous kids yet i am married but people dont care. th best way for her to overcome this problem is to plan her moves such as getting support from maternal and child healh, mums group etc and hold her head high. there is no shame in having a child at 18. i was 17. places like st vincents or the brotherhood of st laurence can be useful to link her up with helpful resources.

what about her sister, do they talk or can she seek support from her. for child care she can also seek out family day care also through her local council which costs around five dollars per hour and they are usually really good. she needs to also find a labour support person to be there at the birth. i hope she has been getting regular check ups at her gp or hospital and hs chosen her hospital. depending on where she lives there are really great hospitals and they dont care about her age. midwives can be asked about support groups as well as they might have information that can help.

i wish your friend the best of luck and tell her to keep her head high, do her studies and she will be fine.

Answer 6

First of all your friend is very brave.  She should try to talk to her family but if not she should rely on her best friends.  It sounds like she has a lot of support in terms of living space and studying.  She can do it!

Answer 7

i say she should give the baby up for adoption. it does not need to get into life with a messed up crazy family and the mom does not need the stress of raising a baby on her own when she is trying to work on her career. its best for everyone if the baby is adopted. good luck :]

Answer 8

She can apply for all types of gov't help and stay a fulltime student, living with her sister is smart being as her sister already has a child. Sounds like she has made up her mind about how to handle it know she just needs to file some paperwork for assistance get medicaid on the kids and live her life the best she can. Congratulate her on her children one baby is a blessing two is just amazing! By the way she can find assistance at the local plan parenthood or govt welfare office!