What to do about this situation?

Question

Very recently my cousin who has been like a sister to me told my husbands best friend who is also her boyfriend, about a very private conservation between the two of us. well now that my husband knows he is pissed off with me. We have since worked it out between the two of us. But my question is should I continue to ignore my cousin when she calls me, or cut her some slack. I'm still totally pissed of with her for betraying me by opening her mouth in the first place.

Answer 1

I don't think your cousin had in mind the thought that her boyfriend would tell your hubby. I do think that if you are still mad to just keep your distance for a while until you are truly prepared to forgive her. If she seems genuinely sorry, I think it's worth forgiving and moving on. Family has many oppurtunities to let us down, and they can a lot because not a single family is perfect. Give it time or atleast long enough for her to realize her mistake in full.

Answer 2

well Jai

as Betrayal just sucks !

this is an easy question !

kick her to the curb ...... and then again for fun !  

Answer 3

Personally I think you should be a woman about it and tell her how you feel.  Private conversations should be just that, private.  And if she can't be adult enough to understand that; at least you've had a chance to get your feelings off your chest before you stop talking to her.

Answer 4

Jai you should just avoid being around her right now, I know that you're still very hurt and angry with her, so give yourself time to cool down.

Answer 5

For me trust is easy to earn at first.  But once it's lost, it's gone and is very hard to earn it back.

You can still be close with your cousin but now you know how much you can trust her.  The relationship you have with your husband is strong enough so that you two worked out what it was.  Now you should go and do the same with her.  But juts be careful what you tell her from now on.  

Or, you could test her honesty as she probably knows the outcome of her lose lips.  Tell a couple juicy lies and if it comes back to your husband through his friend, you know she can't be trusted at all.

Answer 6

Hm..I think you should continue to ignore your cousin..she might learn her lesson! Or maybe you can pick up the phone and say something that will get her pissed and hang up so she gets the point..but if your feeling bad cut her some slack I'm sure she didn't mean it.. the decision is up to you!

Hope I helped !