What to do after an abusive relationship??

Question

my boyfriend isolated me from my friends,and kept saying that they are all rotten so i hardly speak to them anymore,plus i didn't get a job cause of he doesn't want me to work,cause he is jealous i would find some guy at work and leave him,,,,,,he begged me for forgiveness &for another chance, alt hough its the third time he hit me ,,,after crying for me on his knees, i left him a couple of hours ago, the last sentence he told me : that i will loose for not being with "the new "him"" !

HELP what to do with myself , i feel lost and my head is aching from my last injury, help i feel empty,and heart broken...

god bless all

& scare away all demons and evil,

Kroshta

Answer 1

You must call a women's hotline. Look in your phone book and see if there is a women's abuse center. They will help you for free. When you love an abusive man, it takes longer to get over it and you must get counseling so you will never love a man like this again. Love yourself more. You have to take care of you. He sure won't.

Answer 2

kroshta.please be brave and walk away when your mam had you she loved you and never expected any man to abuse you.take from somebody who,s had 40years of abuse. there,s no new man.p.sif you need to talk i,m here. love .xxxxxx

Answer 3

It doesn't get better.  The pain of leaving is brief and compared to the pain you'll endure by remaining with him is minimal.  Get out, cut your ties and move on to a man who is strong enough to enjoy an independent woman.

Answer 4

take care of yourself first and stay away from him no matter how much he cries on his knees.  u need to heal and its not going to be easy but you have to learn to love yourself again before you can let someone else love you.  that way hopefully u wont enter into another relationship like that.  go to your local women shelter they will give u more help.  good luck...

Answer 5

You should report him to the police about the abuse. Find a church that preaches the gospel of Jesus Christ and God will direct you.

Answer 6

WAIT...he HIT YOU.  Girl bye, "Run Forest.......RUN" and don't look back.  He is urggggg so out of there.  How dare he control you verbally, then HIT YOU.  Tell him, to leave you alone or you will F*CK HIS SH*T UP!!!  then call the police for protecting yourself.  Don't play games with an abusive man.  Get out and get you some help!! NOW

Answer 7

Your friends and family will be there. Reach out to them and tell them you were in an abusive relationship and now you are free. You want them back in your life. Go look for a job and get out there. Don't let that loser mess with your head. You are in control of you. Don't let him control you ever again. He is NOT the person for you no matter how many times he cries and aplogizes.

Watch "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay.  

Answer 8

contact your family and friends and explain to them what happened. dont forget theyll akways be there for you.

Answer 9

There is no "new him," at least not "new and improved". He wants to get you back under his control, and this time he will control you to new hieghts you never dreamed of, if you survive. RUN...

Answer 10

I can honestly tell you what to do, because I used to be that guy. The best thing to do is to break up. People won't change their ways unless it is necessary. He probably is sorry, he wants to be with you, but you will continue to go through more abuse mentally and physically. Spend some time apart, really. Not a few days, or a week or two, but honestly about a month from now, see him again a few times, because first impressions can be deceiving. I know it hurts, but if you don't stand up for yourself now, he will continue to bulldoze you. I know. Bad habits are hard to break, look at all the smokers in NY paying eight dollars for a pack of cigarettes. Don't get caught up in your addiction.  

Answer 11

An abuser will remain an abuser.  They know how to sound pathetic to win the sympathies of their battered girlfriends and wives to get another chance to become even more sadistic when they start hitting again.  Stay away from him and get into counseling as soon as possible.  The sooner you get help, the better.  Most cities have a safe haven for battered women. Contact a pastor if you are uncertain how to proceed.  Most are well versed on the avenues of help available in their areas.