What to do and how to handle this situation?

Question

i child has been in my classroom since october(preschool) she has no lang/speech concern but was absent on two separate times, each time the child visited a daycare center then came back to our classroom where she's displayed aggressive behavior, biting and hiting staff.

Answer 1

First, talk to the parents yourself or have an administrator do it, make sure the parents are aware of how she is acting at school and that it is a problem.  When she acts out you need to use some sort of age appropriate punishment; put her in time out or if she's old enough you can have her miss some free play time and help you clean up the classroom, find something that works; make sure you explain to her each time that her behavior unacceptable, she is hurting other people, and that if she continues to act that way she will be punished.  Keep an eye on her and don't be afraid to be strict (my opinion). Also use positive reinforcement like giving her stickers or special snacks if she goes the whole day/week without incident! Ultimately if the parents are not willing to deal with it themselves there is only so much you can do, so try not to stress out too much.

Answer 2

talk to the parents. maybe shes learning this at the daycare. or maybe the child is absent those two days and coming back aggressive because something is happening at home. try to ask the mother or father and if they dont want to talk about it then something must be happening at the childs home which you should tell an authority about... GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 3

Sounds like she's upset and confused by the visits, either because she likes those places better or she's angry at having to leave you. Suggest to the parents that they not take her to visit a place until after they have chosen one or, if they have decided not to move her to reassure her. This isn't college. She's really not entitled to an opinion.In the meantime, remind her firmly about the rules but also find time to give her some extra positive reinforcement.

Answer 4

I think like many others you have to talk with the parents and go from there.

Answer 5

I would explain to her that different schools have different rules

just like home rules are different from school rules and that at

our school we do not allow biting, hitting, etc.  Then I would put her in time-out if she acted aggressively again and make sure

she was missing some really fun activity during that time even if

I had to impromtu schedule something compelling like extra recess, a snack or movie which she could not participate in.

Answer 6

You should definitely speak to her parent. Maybe she's learning these behaviors from other children at the daycare center. If this is the case, you should advise her mother to take her to a different daycare center. You should give her a "time out." If it's getting to the point where she's hurting other children in the class, take her to the office and call her mother.

Answer 7

I agree with ec expert.  Biting happens for lots of reasons. One of those is FRUSTRATION. I would propose that the behavior is not necessarily learned in these short visits away.  I think it is due to these short visits away. I dont know the age of the child (important when biting is happening) but I would say that this change is very traumatic.  Since (from your description) I assume that this behavior is present more prominently when returning from these visits ......there is the problem/answer.  A talk with the parents is definitely in order. Please disregard the "punishment" posts.  This is a cry for help/attention that can be maintained with reinforcement and a steady routine. I would try to learn a bit of history of this child before I jump to conclusions.  This didn't happen in one day ......nor will it be solved in one.  Be consistent, work with parents as a team, assure the child of her place in the community (class) and this child should be able to own this one.