What to do bout someone i like??

Question

To cut a long story short, i like someone who ive known for a year or so, got chatting to her, and asked her out for a drink, she agreed but i never made a move for her, (she has a boyfriend) since then things have got awkward with her, she flirts with me, eye contact, blushing etc but i haven't done anything as i wouldn't feel right as she is taken, but i don't understand why she came out with me if she has a boyfriend? Ive tried ignoring her but by not communicating with her she gets annoyed and goes quiet on me. Can i be friends with someone who i really like? don't want to ask her or tell her my feelings as we work together, any advice appreciated.

Answer 1

This is a tough situation.  The best thing to do is give her a little space, but also paying attention to her at work.  Make her call you.  That is very important.  Make conversation short if possible.  If she is going out on dates with you even though she has a boy friend, is that really a girl who you want to be with?  Is she that important to you?  Even though you work with her you need to tell her how you feel. YOU HAVE TO.   The best way is to take her out again, maybe just coffee, or a small date.  Nothing huge.  Then go for a little drive.  Show her a secret spot if you can.  Then without making it awkward.  Tell her how you feel.  It is ok if your nervous.  Girls actually like guys being nervous because it shows them that you do have feeling for them.  Good luck.

Answer 2

i think that you're doing the right thing by not telling her your feelings.  you can't know for sure whether she likes you or the boyfriend more.  and besides, telling her what you feel like will make her have to make a decision between you and the boyfriend, which will not feel good.  trust me. she'll feel torn trying to decide.  and if her boyfriend ever finds out, you're busted.

yes, it is totally alright for you be friends with someone you really like. she's coming out with you and everything - she might not treat the dates as actual dates, but just a day out with a really good friend.  she probably just thinks of you as a really good friend - despite all the flirting...maybe she wants to see if you like her.  

if she does really want you instead of the boyfriend, she'll find a way to breakup with him.  just try and think of her more like a best friend than someone you really like :)