What to do? i just found out i am pregnant and my boyfriend is overseas?

Question

To start off, my boyfriend was just home for his block leave. He was home for 4 weeks and just left less than a week ago. I just found out i am pregnant and am going for my ultrasound and check up at the OBGYN tomorrow.

My boyfriend and I have talked about this pregnancy for a few days now. He has two more years in the army and i have two more years of college. We have plans of getting married as well but this is just a big surprise for us. We want kids but he doesn't want a baby while hes in the army because he won't be able to be a fulltime dad. Starting a military family just seems so hard, there is always that chance that he won't come back home. he has two more years and if he gets stop lossed he may be in for 2 more deployments. he is a medic so he gets a lot of action on a regular basis and i would just hate for anything to happen.

i don't want to take the chance of raising a kid without a father but i am also scared to have an abortion. I don't know how you feel about abortion but i am at most 3 weeks pregnant so having an abortion may be a option, we're waiting til after i go see a doctor first.

We talked about this and he just doesnt want to have to put me in a situation where i may have to raise our kid alone. i don't know too much about the military and how other military wives/girlfriends felt about this topic. please give me some advice, anything will help.

Answer 1

I would not get an abortion just because you think its not the right time.  What if in two years, you cant have kids.  Think about it seriously.  Children are the best thing in the world.  

Answer 2

Everyone here will tell you not to abort, but it is a personal decision.

If you just aren't ready at the moment, then it is an option.

Just be sure to 100% think it through first.  

Answer 3

adoption

Answer 4

I am an Army wife and mother and its just great. You have to be strong to do it though, if you are not strong abort or adopt.  

Answer 5

There's nothing that can stop u from doing all the things u want...if that's your choice.  I can understand him wanting to be a full time dad, because, yes, him being a medic may require him to be gone a lot and that can be extremely hard on him.

To keep or not to keep is a personal decision and it's easy to tell someone what to do when u aren't in their shoes.  Weigh your options and either way, make a decision YOU can live with.  It's your body...your feelings.  People have regrets when they do things they don't believe in.

Answer 6

u are selfish, & unreliable..  

ur pregnant - DEAL WITH IT ...  u made ur bed.. now u lay in!

stupid girl