What to do if you're wife admits an affair.?

Question

What would you do if your wife admits an affair? Is it wrong to be upset and turned on at the same time?

Answer 1

What turns you on to know that your spouse had a slim bag all over her and making love to her instead you? I think you should kick her sorry butt out the door.

Answer 2

It isn't wrong to feel just about everything and anything if such a thing is found out or admitted to!   You will if you haven't already go through a myriad of feelings - anger, betrayal, loss, grief, sorrow, pain, hate, and the list goes ON!  SUCH a thing is one of the worst to contend with.

What to do?  Depends on her degree or remorse, penitence and the desire you BOTH have to fix what is wrong here!   If she is sorry enough, penitent enough and if you still love each other enough you CAN work through it - fix it, heal, make things right again - it will just take LOTS of time, work, counseling, effort, some more pain and they say - 2-3 years to really be FREE of this kind of pain and heart break. BUT a few have done so - I'm one!   Something had to be WRONG in the first place to send her off in this direction and typically it takes TWO to create such a problem even though SHE made the biggest error obviously!  BUT we all make mistakes.  Do you still love her enough to stick by her side and she by yours to heal together through this ordeal????  It's tough - but I think it's worth the investment if you are both committed and are ready to work your tails off emotionally!

TUrned on? I was thinking turned on like betrayed not turned on sexually! ewww...sick!

Answer 3

Maybe its some weird fetish you have seeing your wife with another man trrruusst me dont tell her your turned on just be upset and get over it she might keep doing it do you really want crabs???  

Answer 4

It's not wrong, just kind of kinky.

And she is one lucky lady.

If you can forgive her, all is well.

Answer 5

When it sinks in it will hurt. I don't quite understand the turned on part, but if it helps you to resolve your differences good for you. If you love her and want it to work stay, but you will have many trust issues and might grow resentful. So I say give it time, time will give you your answers.

Answer 6

do you mean BEFORE or AFTER i push her down the stairs and do the cha cha on her forehead?

Answer 7

Why turned on?

Answer 8

If it makes you happy, it's not wrong. But I think you need to look within yourself and figure out why you are having these feelings. There are happy swingers in this world, maybe you are one.

Answer 9

Forgive her and make up,but don't let it happen to you again!

Answer 10

Maybe you should get help.

Answer 11

Why would it be wrong if those are your true feelings?

Do what makes you happy...don't worry about anybody else...except maybe your wife :)

Answer 12

I don't know how you can be turned on to your wife having an affair. I would be very angry and hurt.  

Answer 13

Yes, it is somewhat freakish to be mad and turned on at the same time.

Answer 14

Stay with her and next time she does it ( because she will) get yourself a chair, a beer and watch....since it turns you on so much!!

You need professional help and a marriage counselor!!!

Answer 15

ok i would

1.get a divorce.

2.if its my house she is getting the h**l out with her little lover.

i would be upset but nothing makes me mad more then a week or so so i'll be cool XD

Answer 16

Your turned on by your wife having a affair? Why?  

Answer 17

It sounds like you are a candidate for an open marriage.  Most people would be devastated so if you're upset and still turned on than forgive her and made some decisions about how you want your marriage to proceed.  It's all a personal choice so what is right for some isn't always right for others.  Good Luck

Answer 18

i can't imagine being turned on by hearing my spouse just had an affair.  

Answer 19

i cant live with this poor personalities, if divorce is impossible due to some reasons you can live like her, why be upset? you have right to enjoy your life. find the way which will make you happy.good luck...

Answer 20

Whatever floats your boat... if it turns you on, you should become swingers

Answer 21

I guess you can use it to your advantage and tell her you want a threesome with her and another woman to make up for it .   Other then that what are you thinking ?