What to do if you find your "soul-mate"?

Question

I've never been around someone who makes me feel so comfortable that I am not afraid to open up and share my deep feelings and who I can trust no matter what. Everything seems to click when we talk, sharing the same thoughts on life, family, social, politics, etc.

Okay the hitch, we are co workers and both of us are already married. I sense that she has some feelings towards me, but we haven't had real discussion about our feelings, other than being good co-workers/friends. I'm not sure how to approach this, am I off track about this, or is it possible that I have found my soul mate, and if so how do I proceed?

Answer 1

She's your new best friend.  And that is it, friend.  

Answer 2

You are describing me!!! This is exactly how things began with how I believe to be my soulmate.  That was nearly 5 years ago.  more than 2 years ago we started having a physical relationship.  We planned our future together, never fought, everything was perfect.  I got divorced 4 months ago. When he started his divorce process his wife found out about us, went nuts with threats, getting his family and friends to apply pressure, now he says he can't leave because of his kids.  I haven't seen him and barely spoken to him in over 3 months now.  I'm dying inside. I am not okay.  My advice is to not start anything physical unitl you are both divorced!!!  

Answer 3

Yeah, that's number five on the list of excuses to cheat. If you don't want to steal the cookies, you don't put your hand in the cookie jar.

You made a commitment to your wife BEFORE GOD. You have a responsibility to do whatever it takes to keep that commitment. If you can, move to another department, or get another job. If that's impossible at the moment, you tell the woman you will not be talking with her any more, then don't! That means no chit-chat in the break room, no long lunches, nothing!

Trust me, if you get past this, you will be stronger. And you will be so glad you dodged the bullet instead of ruining a lot of people's lives. Hang tough!